tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post4657815175201038548..comments2023-08-23T03:51:55.709-05:00Comments on Muslim Bushido: Geostrategy Nerd: Close Proximity to DBRBM and Their BF Enablers = Increased Probability of Death During the Next PandemicUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-19518564439281462092009-04-24T20:28:00.000-05:002009-04-24T20:28:00.000-05:00Hello there, Aphrodite!
I saw that. It's VERY rel...Hello there, Aphrodite!<br /><br />I saw that. It's VERY relevant. Thanks for posting the details about the situation.<br /><br /><STRONG>People, Get Ready.</STRONG>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-66232952940377179582009-04-24T19:57:00.000-05:002009-04-24T19:57:00.000-05:00Hello Khadija,
I thought I'd post this since it i...Hello Khadija,<br /><br />I thought I'd post this since it is relevant:<br /><br /><br />"A unique strain of swine flu is the suspected killer of dozens of people in Mexico, where authorities closed schools, museums, libraries and theaters in the capital on Friday to try to contain an outbreak that has spurred concerns of a global flu epidemic. <br /><br /><br />The worrisome new virus — which combines genetic material from pigs, birds and humans in a way researchers have not seen before — also sickened at least eight people in Texas and California, though there have been no deaths in the U.S.<br /><br /><br />"We are very, very concerned," World Health Organization spokesman Thomas Abraham said. "We have what appears to be a novel virus and it has spread from human to human ... It's all hands on deck at the moment."<br /><br /><br /><br />....It might already be too late to contain the outbreak, a prominent U.S. pandemic flu expert said late Friday.Given how quickly flu can spread around the globe, if these are the first signs of a pandemic, then there are probably cases incubating around the world already, said Dr. Michael Osterholm at the University of Minnesota.<br /><br /><br /><br />Epidemiologists are particularly concerned because the only fatalities so far were in young people and adults."<br /><br />Mexico swine flu deaths spur global epidemic fears<br /><br />http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090424/ap_on_he_me/med_swine_fluAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-64478584563562946122009-04-22T23:10:00.000-05:002009-04-22T23:10:00.000-05:00There's a recent Huffington Post article entitled,...There's a recent Huffington Post article entitled, <EM>"Black Women and the AIDS Crisis"</EM> by Martha St. Jean.<br /><br />I vaguely remember that roughly 20+ years ago there was a national AIDS quilt project that had been organized by gays.<br /><br />I see that things have escalated to the point that now some Black women have an AIDS quilt as well (in video form). I just read a crazy statistic saying that 1 out of 30 BW women will be diagnosed with HIV during her lifetime. There's something called the Southern AIDS Living Quilt. It's apparently a project that has videos of women (mostly Black, it would seem) living with HIV/AIDS. {sigh}<br /><br />www.livingquilt.org/<br /><br />http://www.huffingtonpost.com/martha-st-jean/black-women-and-the-aids_b_189635.html<br /><br />Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-46954964156654005842009-04-18T01:27:00.000-05:002009-04-18T01:27:00.000-05:00Hello there, Daniecal!
You said, "Whats sad was t...Hello there, Daniecal!<br /><br />You said, <EM>"Whats sad was that these SAME girls would try to fill, these perscriptions almost every weekend. The State typically only pays for 1 Plan B pill a month. I had to keep informing them that The Morning After pill is not a form of Birth Control. In fact they have access to Birth Control why werent they using it!!!"</EM>I would imagine for a combination of reasons (having sex when they're not emotionally ready to do so; holding to the confused notion that if they effectively plan for sex then that means that they're h***; religious guilt for being sexually active; and most of all---not caring very much about themselves). <br /><br />Whatever the reasons are, they are NOT about lack of access or lack of information. There are some other things going on with these sorts of situations. I believe it mostly revolves around a lack of self-respect and self-worth. The cumulative effect of BW's psyches getting a non-stop, degrading, cultural "beat down" for the past 25 years. [Via Negro popular culture---hip hop.]<br /><br />You said, <EM>"He grabbed me by the hand, took me to the corner, and pointed out every guy out there I knew, that had either voluntarily, or involuntarily engaged in sex with other men while in prison. He knew because he was there too. He then asked me if I was still "attracted to knuckleheads"<br />I was quickly cured of my "bad boy" stage. Alot of women would shutter at the info that was divulged to me that day. But I took it in, and absorbed every bit of it."</EM>Thank God you had the sense to listen. I've known PLENTY of grown a** women (not just teenage girls) who would have convinced themselves that the man was just telling them this because he was "jealous" of the "love" between them and their thug boyfriend.<br /><br />Thanks for the info about the websites. I'll look them over this weekend.<br /><br />Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-80036001773303326932009-04-18T00:51:00.000-05:002009-04-18T00:51:00.000-05:00Theres also alot of unexplored info regarding the ...Theres also alot of unexplored info regarding the aids epidemic in Africa, and the effeciency in testing, there have actually been suits here are some links to some intersting information if you are intersted:<br /><br />http://www.virusmyth.com/aids/reappraising/2001-01.pdf<br /><br />http://www.aliveandwell.org/<br /><br />Not sure if your familiar with these sources But I found them interesting, I was put off by some of the information, and why Alive and Well has yet to address the current publisiced HIV crisis amongst Black Women in particular.<br />But intriguing none the less.<br /><br />I remember watching some program I think on ABC, "exploring" the rising numbers of HIV infected BW in America. And finally someone did a study, taking the recent documented infections into account with the ratio and proximity to Prisons. Lo and Behold, the women in these immediate areas had a much higher rate than those who lived in farther communities.<br />Unlike some posters here, I know of and have socialized with ex-cons. Some in my own family, some of them freinds I have grew up with, and watched let themselves get swept away into "thug life". Tryna be a dopeboy and what not. <br /><br />My eye opening experience came as a teenager when my best friends uncle, who was very protective over me, heard about some little "thug" around the neighborhood, staking his claim on me. He grabbed me by the hand, took me to the corner, and pointed out every guy out there I knew, that had either voluntarily, or involuntarily engaged in sex with other men while in prison. He knew because he was there too. He then asked me if I was still "attracted to knuckleheads"<br />I was quickly cured of my "bad boy" stage. Alot of women would shutter at the info that was divulged to me that day. But I took it in, and absorbed every bit of it.Misty Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15180885053597751948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-21478141886575229822009-04-18T00:26:00.000-05:002009-04-18T00:26:00.000-05:00Sad to say that alot of young black women ARE NOT ...Sad to say that alot of young black women ARE NOT protecting themselves. Ive worked in the pharmacies from Long Beach, CA to Chicago. And constantly have had to fill what we'd call "Monday Morning Specials". Basically thats the typical perscription from the local clinic or Planned Parenthood, containing :<br />1) The Morning After Pill<br />2) Doxycycline or some other antibiotic, more than likely for a vaginal infection or STI.<br />3) Anti-Itch cream.<br />4)Birth Control.<br />5) A huge box of industrial size of Rugby condoms.<br /><br />Whats sad was that these SAME girls would try to fill, these perscriptions almost every weekend. The State typically only pays for 1 Plan B pill a month. I had to keep informing them that The Morning After pill is not a form of Birth Control. In fact they have access to Birth Control why werent they using it!!!<br /><br />But my experiences in the Huntington Beaches, and Laguna Beaches were not any better. The herpes medication Valtrex is a "fast mover" round those parts, and was constantly perscribed to young white kids, for thier current outbreaks.<br /><br />But what I noticed was that the majority of the Aids meds I filled were in the Urban cities. While the majority of the psyche, anti-anxiety and anti-depressants were in the white areas.<br />*Sigh*<br />Now that I think about it its all down right depressing.Misty Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15180885053597751948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-79280919787196530882009-04-12T01:11:00.000-05:002009-04-12T01:11:00.000-05:00@ Pioneervalleywoman"Thanks! I wish you success wi...@ Pioneervalleywoman<BR/><BR/>"Thanks! I wish you success with your endeavors. I agree, it is essential to have thinking people who use their critical thinking skills around, especially since so much has been dumbed down in a spate of anti-intellectualism!"<BR/><BR/><BR/>Your welcome and thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-70173921898817572009-04-10T00:38:00.000-05:002009-04-10T00:38:00.000-05:00Hello there, Anonymiss!Thank you for your kind wor...Hello there, Anonymiss!<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your kind words about the post. I truly appreciate it.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry to hear about your relative. You said, <EM>"Thank goodness that she's doing very well (high T cell count, proper diet and exercise). Even though she's healthy, it's still a burden to live with the disease."</EM><BR/><BR/>I praise God that she's doing well. However, as you noted, dealing with this disease is a huge burden. It's no joke.<BR/><BR/>You said, <EM>"You know, I think about the depressing state of the BC everyday. It drives me nuts because there's such a lack of common sense."</EM><BR/><BR/>I find the willful lack of common sense quite annoying. However, I try to focus my attention on those folks who are willing to seek good, abundant lives. The rest will simply have to continue dying in the wilderness.<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-61398027984478169912009-04-10T00:21:00.000-05:002009-04-10T00:21:00.000-05:00Hey Khadija:This was a very good and important rea...Hey Khadija:<BR/><BR/>This was a very good and important read.<BR/><BR/>It's important because one of my relatives is living with HIV. She caught it from just one time of having unprotected sex with her then BF.<BR/><BR/>Thank goodness that she's doing very well (high T cell count, proper diet and exercise). Even though she's healthy, it's still a burden to live with the disease.<BR/><BR/>You know, I think about the depressing state of the BC everyday. It drives me nuts because there's such a lack of common sense.<BR/><BR/>Thinking about the reader comments has me thinking of an old convo that me and my BF had years ago. He said that he wished that humankind would operate like the animal kingdom. He said that the weak should just die off when they refuse to be smart and learn from their mistakes and when they refuse to be <I><B>smarter</B></I> and learn from other people's mistakes.Anonymisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13030472200941563001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-2981093467307795532009-04-08T19:58:00.000-05:002009-04-08T19:58:00.000-05:00Hello there, JaliliMaster!You said, "Lol, so I'm n...Hello there, JaliliMaster!<BR/><BR/>You said, <EM>"Lol, so I'm not the only one who thinks Messrs Perry and Moore are gay?"</EM><BR/><BR/>No, you're not the only one. LOL!<BR/>_______________________<BR/><BR/>Hello there, Lynn!<BR/><BR/>You said, <EM>"I tell you I am SO HAPPY for blogs like this and the like. I truly hope BW are reading this. I try to get the word out every time I can to a BW I see that's not happy with the way things are going in her life. <BR/><BR/>Take care!"</EM><BR/><BR/>THANK YOU SO MUCH! I'm just trying to "pay it forward" for all the blogs like Evia's (and others) that helped me.<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-61754086238182208702009-04-08T13:09:00.000-05:002009-04-08T13:09:00.000-05:0011/18/08 titled "All Colored Folks Who Want to Go ...11/18/08 titled "All Colored Folks Who Want to Go to Kansas...".<BR/><BR/>I will make it a point to read that post. I tell you I am SO HAPPY for blogs like this and the like. I truly hope BW are reading this. I try to get the word out every time I can to a BW I see that's not happy with the way things are going in her life. <BR/><BR/>Take care!Lynnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-58898117148826895862009-04-08T09:16:00.000-05:002009-04-08T09:16:00.000-05:00"Lord have mercy. Aside from infidelity and diseas..."Lord have mercy. Aside from infidelity and disease issues, there is the inherent non-reciprocity (at least in terms of women who are straight). The non-reciprocity of choosing someone who will NEVER be as "into you" as you are "into" him. This is beyond insanity.<BR/><BR/>What next? The (bizarre) step that Lisa mentioned a long time ago of more BW hooking up with Black "trans-men"? {head spinning}"<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm sure there are some out there who would think it's a good thing as there would be more 'brothas' to date/marry. SMH!<BR/>______________________<BR/><BR/>"Of course Essence supports this. How many 'Great Black Bachelors' issues have they done with Tyler Perry on the cover. The last one I saw also featured Shemar Moore. There are pictures of Shemar running nude on a gay beach. Seriously Essence, is that the best you can do?"<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Lol, so I'm not the only one who thinks Messrs Perry and Moore are gay? I remember a few months ago, one of these black rags did a feature for some type of 'eligible bachelor' thing. Alot of women mentioned that most of the men looked gay. I don't know if there is a truly gay 'look' but when I checked the pictures out, I knind of got their point.<BR/><BR/><BR/>And I too have heard of married women sleeping with gay/bisexual men, but them having 'committed' long-term relationships with them is a whole new issue. I really don't see the point in so far as no matter how much one might enjoy his company, he will eventually need to itch, and the woman doesn't have much place to complain if she alreday knew.JaliliMasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17020248960880215958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-43513208079271054312009-04-08T07:23:00.001-05:002009-04-08T07:23:00.001-05:00Oh, so that's who that guy is. I saw a picture of ...Oh, so that's who that guy is. I saw a picture of him on another blog kissing a woman and was like what is going on here? He was wearing mink pants for crying out loud. I have never understood the attraction to gay men, but I do know of several women who have married or at least had relationships with men who were openly gay/bisexual. <BR/><BR/>Of course Essence supports this. How many 'Great Black Bachelors' issues have they done with Tyler Perry on the cover. The last one I saw also featured Shemar Moore. There are pictures of Shemar running nude on a gay beach. Seriously Essence, is that the best you can do?roslynholcombhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03423350501595717113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-15468773667333181042009-04-08T07:23:00.000-05:002009-04-08T07:23:00.000-05:00Hello there, PioneerValleyWoman!You mentioned, "My...Hello there, PioneerValleyWoman!<BR/><BR/>You mentioned, <EM>"My observations...Now it seems to me that there was a time when black women who knew men were gay just left them alone with respect to their private lives--they just did not go there. And when the down-low thing became more well known about six years, it acted as a cautionary, be careful of who you are with. But the message is different now?<BR/><BR/>But now, Essence magazine, the rag I no longer buy, if anything, is telling black women that there is nothing wrong with dating/marrying a gay/bisexual man, provided he is open about himself and his lifestyle.<BR/><BR/>So women who choose to go this crazy route, what will be their magical thinking?<BR/><BR/>I turned him out...He is no longer gay...He'll never go back to men...I know he'll stray, but he'll be honest with me...I know he will come back to me...He will be careful out there...etc, etc.<BR/><BR/>What in the world?????"</EM><BR/><BR/>Oh...my...God... It's one (foolish) thing for a woman to <STRONG>knowingly</STRONG> dally with a NON-STRAIGHT man. But for a woman to actually think that she's in a committed relationship with a NON-STRAIGHT man? And God forbid, to <EM>marry</EM> a NON-STRAIGHT man?<BR/><BR/>Lord have mercy. Aside from infidelity and disease issues, there is the inherent non-reciprocity (at least in terms of women who are straight). The non-reciprocity of choosing someone who will NEVER be as "into you" as you are "into" him. This is beyond insanity.<BR/><BR/>What next? The (bizarre) step that Lisa mentioned a long time ago of more BW hooking up with Black "trans-men"? {head spinning}<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-37367251915091879392009-04-08T05:38:00.000-05:002009-04-08T05:38:00.000-05:00Here is another example of some black women's cont...Here is another example of some black women's continuing spiral downward: black women marrying men who are openly gay/bisexual, which fits in with the theme of this post.<BR/><BR/>I heard of this story that appeared in Essence on line, and I quote from it:<BR/><BR/>America's favorite Atlanta “Housewives” star Dwight has the blogosphere in an uproar with news that he is getting a wife of his own. The flamboyant hairstylist who was first introduced as NeNe Leakes's best friend and confidante on the premiere season has confirmed exclusively to ESSENCE.com that he is engaged to a woman.<BR/><BR/>Although a date has not been set, Dwight's bride-to-be has no qualms about his appreciation for both sexes. And it hasn’t stopped other women from pursuing the hairstylist and divo extraordinaire for romantic liaisons.<BR/><BR/>“I get more play from women than men," says Dwight, who recently celebrated his fiftieth birthday with a circus theme and male and female models to escort him through the room. "I can’t get a date with a man, but the women are knocking my doors down. They just love you when you can be real about who you are.”<BR/><BR/>My observations...Now it seems to me that there was a time when black women who knew men were gay just left them alone with respect to their private lives--they just did not go there. And when the down-low thing became more well known about six years, it acted as a cautionary, be careful of who you are with. But the message is different now?<BR/><BR/>But now, Essence magazine, the rag I no longer buy, if anything, is telling black women that there is nothing wrong with dating/marrying a gay/bisexual man, provided he is open about himself and his lifestyle.<BR/><BR/>So women who choose to go this crazy route, what will be their magical thinking?<BR/><BR/>I turned him out...He is no longer gay...He'll never go back to men...I know he'll stray, but he'll be honest with me...I know he will come back to me...He will be careful out there...etc, etc.<BR/><BR/>What in the world?????PVWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12410310404539584350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-37400039841499956132009-04-08T05:18:00.000-05:002009-04-08T05:18:00.000-05:00"The same way (and for the same reasons) that I fe..."The same way (and for the same reasons) that I feel welfare needs to be cut off in the US. Just as in Africa, AAs (and others) have mostly squandered public aid FOR DECADES; and dependency upon it has become part of a death spiral. This cycle needs to be broken. One way or another. Sink or swim."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>This is my main problenm with things like aid/welfare etc. It has it's uses, but after a while, those receiving it get used to it and alot of the time, are just too stupid to realise that they have gottern to a point where they are being dependent on these handouts, and hence, controlled.JaliliMasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17020248960880215958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-4929018534241318102009-04-07T16:21:00.000-05:002009-04-07T16:21:00.000-05:00Hello there, Lynn!Thank you for your kind words ab...Hello there, Lynn!<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your kind words about the blog post and discussion. I truly appreciate it.<BR/><BR/>Yep. Black residential areas have become literally LIFE-THREATENING. In ways that we don't even realize. This in one such way.<BR/><BR/>For many reasons, it's time to flee these places. I talked about this in depth int the post dated 11/18/08 titled <EM>"All Colored Folks Who Want to Go to Kansas..."</EM>.<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-62228750214353483772009-04-07T15:53:00.000-05:002009-04-07T15:53:00.000-05:00This is the most amazing blog post I have yet to r...This is the most amazing blog post I have yet to read. I am so greatful that you (and the other people that have commented) are taking their time out to give some really insightful responses. <BR/><BR/>I think the first step to try to end all this madness - and I may get laughed at for saying this - but to just move away from the black community. That's what I did. I picked up and left. No forwarding address, email or phone number. The only people that I wanted to get in touch with had my information. If you didn't have it, I didn't WANT you to have it. I moved to a pretty diverse neighborhood, AWAY from 99% of the DBRBM and carved out a new life for myself. I don't associate with them and I have no problem saying that OUT LOUD. I may be getting off the subject but I just wanted to voice my own personal experience. Once I left the BC things were ALOT different. I actively sought out people of different races to learn from and to be around. People are people, some good some bad, but I tell you some of the issues that bm come with, I don't have to deal with. <BR/>It's very refreshing. <BR/><BR/>It's like with DBRBM they are a different class of people. And we are trying to coexist with them? It can't be done. Because we are constantly being preyed upon by them. They don't care about BW unless they want something from us, unless THEY can benefit in some way. It's never a 2 way street.<BR/><BR/>Again, I think we as black women should start just moving out of these communities where all these DBRBM live and have access to. Just move...<BR/><BR/>Anwyay I probably got off subject, but I just wanted to throw in my two cents. I am with whoever said we need to forget about people that aren't trying to do better and just move on from them...and I guess that's what I did...mentally and physically.Lynnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-46270086445931548172009-04-06T17:04:00.000-05:002009-04-06T17:04:00.000-05:00Hello there, Sistrunkqueen!Thanks for the info abo...Hello there, Sistrunkqueen!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the info about the book. From what I can tell by reading her website and some of the reviews, I agree with her about the need to cut off the aid (international welfare) to Africa.<BR/><BR/>The same way (and for the same reasons) that I feel welfare needs to be cut off in the US. Just as in Africa, AAs (and others) have mostly squandered public aid FOR DECADES; and dependency upon it has become part of a death spiral. This cycle needs to be broken. One way or another. Sink or swim.<BR/><BR/>I don't know whether or not her other suggestions would actually work (I'm not an economist).<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-73369217660297516462009-04-06T12:53:00.000-05:002009-04-06T12:53:00.000-05:00Well the comments about Africa seems to be in acco...Well the comments about Africa seems to be in accord with what Dambisia Moyo wrote in her new book Dead Aid. She was on C-Span Q&A last night. A very good, thoughtful interview about herself and her work in Economics. She states that Africa does not need anymore dead aid from other governments. She is being villified by NGOs and some African leaders who want things in Africa to be status quo. I ordered the book and am looking foward to reading it. She has a wesite www.deadaid.org.sistrunkqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14506289216351636262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-54853035203055822882009-04-06T08:18:00.000-05:002009-04-06T08:18:00.000-05:00Hello there, JaliliMaster!Here's what I see as the...Hello there, JaliliMaster!<BR/><BR/>Here's what I see as the bottom line regarding the "Africa Follies" that you described: When the Chinese finish taking over sub-Saharan Africa, <EM>they</EM> will make good and productive use of the natural resources there. With or without the physical presence of the (soon to be FORMER) inhabitants. End of story. The Chinese rulers have a billion people to feed. And a million-man Red Army to keep equipped. They don't have time for foolishness. {shaking my head}<BR/><BR/>You said, <EM>"I've actually semi-given up on trying to get black folks talking about AIDS in our communities. Before anyone pounces on me, try doing it yourself. I'll tell you the reply you'll get. It will be something along the lines of..."the government did it", "if it were white folks dropping like flies, there would already be a cure" etc. They do this everytime, and frankly, I cannot continue to disturb myself. If folks want to listen, they will. If they choose to act on what they've heard, good."</EM><BR/><BR/>You and me both. This is what I mean when I say that I refuse to beg anybody to save their own life. God respects free will, and so will I. That's why the current HIV/AIDS plague among AA women has me feeling irritable/angry as opposed to sad. They chose to remain on Fantasy Island. That was their choice. Oh well.<BR/><BR/>Ah, George Michael. I remember him from the beginning---<EM>Wham!UK</EM>---then it was called <EM>Wham!</EM>---then dying his hair blond---then wearing earings on both ears during the <EM>Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go</EM> period---then dropping the unknown guy (what's 'is name, Andrew Ridgley?)---then the solo career---then the bathroom arrest. {chuckling}<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-35929319725835402152009-04-06T07:47:00.000-05:002009-04-06T07:47:00.000-05:00"The black community in many ways reminds of the h..."The black community in many ways reminds of the hyper-sexuality of the gay community prior to the AIDs epidemic. This is not surprising. Marginalized people have a remarkable tendency to become deviant. For quite a while there was denial in the gay community as well. Many did not then and don't now want to give up the party. This is why you see the emergence of the foolish behavior that activists decry. Go to any gay website and you references to 'barebacking,' and stranger sex, which had become quite taboo is making a comeback. Conspiracy theories abounded (in many arenas they still do). It took quite a few years for them to get a grip."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>That's why I can no longer stand George Michael. This man has been caught time and time again, in filthy public places, whether it is a public toilet, on Hampstead Heath etc., engaging in unsafe sexual practices, despite the fact that he is in a long term 'committed' homosexual relationship. When he was criticised, he replied..."It's part of the gay lifestyle." He, by his actions and public persona, is normalising attitudes and behaviours one would have thought were outdadted. I was surprised when I found out that despite the very public criticism, there were alot of gays who, privately, agreed with him that it was, in fact, part of the 'gay lifestyle'. Frankly, I no longer buy the idea that things improved. I think these practices became confined to the underground. Now things considered 'seedy', 'kinky' etc, are now being paraded as a normal, usual part of gay relationships. Try going into a gay romance store. Most just look like sex shops. I'm like....'where is the romance?!'<BR/>__________________<BR/>"That's a brilliant point. I hadn't made the connection between marginalization, powerlessness and the "I have sex, therefore I AM" mindset. Hmmmm..."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>This is very similar to the story you told(I think it was you), of the fellow who had several OOW kids with several women, couldn't/wasn't really taking care of them/providing financially, but when a new one was born, he would declare....."I am King".<BR/><BR/>_______________________<BR/><BR/>"This also ties into the passive, incurious mindset that Lisa talked about in her comment to the Larry Kramer post. If you hear of, and personally KNOW of, people who are dropping dead of a plague, why wouldn't you read up about it? Why wouldn't you take steps to protect yourself from infection?"<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>When SARS first came to wide public attention a few years ago, I made a point of reading up on it as much as I could. Forget it when folks say that any human strains are so far, only restricted to Easter Asia. Unless they find a cure, it is going to hit, and you know it's black folks that always engage in the most stupidity on such instances, so guess which demographic is going to be worst affected? At the time, I was still in my mid teens, yet I wanted to be sure that I was fully equipped. When I'd see folks in China with these masks over their mouth and nose, I wanted to know why they wore them, and how the masks were protecting them, AND the best type. The disease has now reached the western most part of Europe(but is still confined to the birds). Some folks are going to wait till they grow beaks before they think of safety.<BR/>______________________<BR/><BR/><BR/>"Some things are just too stupid. And I'm getting to the point with this issue that I've reached with the notion of feeding starving people in Africa: STOP trying to help them! I know it sounds Ayn Rand-ian, but hear me out.<BR/><BR/>If the people of these societies (and by similar stupidity, AAs) REFUSE to fix the cultural dysfunctions that are literally KILLING them, then it's just as well that they die out. And clear space for more sensible people to effectively use the natural resources in those countries."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I partially agree. The young who are suffering are in these conditions as a result of other people's actions. I always assist whenever I can. But otherwise, it get's to a point when one sometimes just has to say "Enough!" It's one thing if it's in Sudan, Somalia etc(well that annoys me more because it is these so-called 'don't call me black' black arabs that are doing the killing), but in cases where it's about poverty, when one get's so used to sufferring, others get used to seeing them suffer. One good example is the case of Madonna's adoption of that baby boy(David) about a year and a half ago. Ignore what the media says, most(in fact, almost all) African babies that are adopted are adopted by fellow Africans, from the same country. This is after no other relative has taken them in. In this little boys case, the only reason he was in an orphanage was because his father REFUSED to take care of him. Not that he was unable to, but he just didn't want to put in the effort. The boy's mother had died, she was not working while alive, so it's not like her death had caused the elimination of an income stream. The father was able to financially provide for him to the same extent that he was doing before his wife's death, but he just wasn't willing to physically raise the child. So he decided to used the orphanage as a baby sitter, then he had the audacity to open his mouth and complain because someone else decided to do his job. <BR/><BR/>Another example is in the case of the former Nigerian President(Obasanjo). This negro decided to say that the country people should stop complaining about strife and understand that Nigeria is a 'poor country', and as a result, she cannot feed her citizens. He got a resounding 'negro sit down'. Even folks on the street knew that it wasn't a poor country. This guy just wanted to spend the money on his own personal stuff. It comes to a point when one has to say that if folks continue to accept and vote in corrupt officials, they should stop complaining when they get the result.<BR/><BR/>The problem in most African countries isn't corruption. In Nigeria, it is corruption(and I'd know), but some other countries have either famine, poverty, war, or some combination. In the case of corrupt countries, the issue isn't mismanagement, as is oft repeated in the media. The problem is that they manage the money TOO well. If one wants to excape paying tax, they hire a good tax laywer that can school them. If one wants to hide money, they need expert advice on the best ways to do it. These folks, on the other hand, don't. They KNOW how to swindle. How is that defined as mismanagement? They are very good money managers. There is a woman, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, who was a Vice-President in the World Bank in America. She took a large pay cut to be Nigeria's Finace Minister. Her husband and kids were in the US, and she went to live in Nigeria, so made a huge sacrifice. She was able to, after alot of hard work, get upwards of several hundreds of millions of dollars of Nigerian money that had been stashed in Swiss back accounts by previous leaders. There are thousands of such accounts in banks around the world, so that should tell you how much folks have swindled. The money was transferred to a home bank. Can you believe that as this woman stepped foot off the plane on her return from Switzerland, she arrived at work to find that the money was gone! She couldn't account for what happened to it. I mean, these folks didn't even waste any time. Not surprisingly, she quit after some years. When asked why, she said that in every corner of ever government department, there were crooks. She saw no point in wasting her time and decided to go and enjoy her family. <BR/><BR/><BR/>What I'm about to say, I don't ever say in public, or I only say it around other blacks, but I'll just go right ahead(yes, I know were on the internet, and all sorts of folks will be reading this, but oh well...). It's come to a point where I believe that black folks have issues. And I mean SERIOUS problems. I'm not just talking about negroes, i mena everyday black folks. I have an uncle(not biological, but a family friend) who believe that black folks are cursed. His wife gets so angry whenevcer he says it, and I used to as well, but even I am starting to think, hmmm, hold on. The same thing that is plaguing AA's is the same thing that is wrong with Africans, which is the same thing that is wrong with black folks in Britain, and the same thing wrong with black folks in Brazil. We(I don't mean every single one of us, vut y'all get my drift), like handouts. Tooooo much. If it's not waiting for welfare, it's waititng for aid. If it's not waiting for some government programme, it's waititng for some UN programme. It's always about getting help from someone else. And whenever we DO make programmes ourselves, it is always in lieu of solving an already long-existing problem, and never about creating opportunity/being innovative. We like waiting for other folks to do stuff, then we want to use it. The problem may have existed for a long time, but how many black folks actually take the initiative to solve it? And when one does, there is always not just one, two, but an entire chorus of negroes trying to but up roadblocks.<BR/><BR/>I have never liked the 'get mine' attitude that is so pervasive in the black community, but it would atleast make more sense if these black folks actually 'got theirs'. In most African countries, the work ethic is very good. One would see people reday to strife to benefit themselves, individually. But try and get these same people to do stuff for the community/country etc., till you turn grey, you'd still be waiting for folks to turn up. There was an African church in England that was attended predominantly by students. The pastor(a Nigerian), organised a charity event for the chirch members to come and volunteer in a homeless shelter, prisons etc. On the day, most of the folks who turned up were from another church(a more mixed one, but essentially, was predominanlty white students). The outreach wasn't even organised by this church, but they, along with other parishes were invited to join in the work of the community. Guess how many of the students from this African church turned up? Three. A whole THREE of them!<BR/><BR/>Black folks are too interested in blaming. Yes, there is enough blame to go around, but what about solutions. I've actually semi-given up on trying to get black folks talking about AIDS in our communities. Before anyone pounces on me, try doing it yourself. I'll tell you the reply you'll get. It will be something along the lines of..."the government did it", "if it were white folks dropping like flies, there would already be a cure" etc. They do this everytime, and frankly, I cannot continue to disturb myself. If folks want to listen, they will. If they choose to act on what they've heard, good.<BR/>_____________________<BR/><BR/>"Indeed, that sort of thing is just beyond ridiculous, right up there with the "don't talk about women's issues, folk might think you are a lesbian" and "all feminists are lesbians, you know."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>My reply to such comments is usually...."And?" If you notice, they hardly ever have anything else to say after that.JaliliMasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17020248960880215958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-38958060677911405402009-04-05T23:57:00.000-05:002009-04-05T23:57:00.000-05:00"This FOOL actually got arrested by the feds for h..."This FOOL actually got arrested by the feds for his youtube videos. Not because he named the black and latina "w****s" that he had sex with, but because he went on Youtube claiming he was going to contaminate some Gerber baby food so he could kill black babies."<BR/><BR/>------------------------------<BR/><BR/>Well thank God for that. One less monsters off our streets!Foxycleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02516723300727754144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-33646456993603343732009-04-05T11:26:00.000-05:002009-04-05T11:26:00.000-05:00Khadija:Women, AIDS and Activism: The ACT UP/New Y...Khadija:<BR/><BR/><BR/>Women, AIDS and Activism: The ACT UP/New York Women and AIDS Book Group, published 1990."<BR/><BR/>You've got an impressive bookcase! LOL!<BR/><BR/>My reply: I do! Both at home and at my work office. <BR/><BR/>Smile--the nerdy college kid has grown up to become a nerdy academic! <BR/><BR/>I too was raised in a family where I was expected to go find out things for myself. Thus, nerdy me in junior high school, I had my library bag with a notepad where I would keep a list of subjects I heard of during the week that I wanted to learn about. <BR/><BR/>On library day at school, or after school was out for the day, I'd be in the library, learning more.<BR/><BR/>Khadija:<BR/><BR/>You said, "From the preface: This book was originally produced by members of the Women's Caucus of the AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power (ACT UP) in conjunction with a teach-in about women and AIDS at the Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center in NYC in March 1989..."<BR/><BR/>Note that ACT-UP was involved in producing this book. Also note that most straight Black folks WON'T go anywhere near any meeting at any place called "the Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center." After all, if one is seen wandering in & out of such places, folks might think one is gay/lesbian! And then you really have a social problem.<BR/><BR/>My reply:<BR/><BR/>Indeed, that sort of thing is just beyond ridiculous, right up there with the "don't talk about women's issues, folk might think you are a lesbian" and "all feminists are lesbians, you know."<BR/><BR/>Um, hello? Are lesbians the real enemy? Many lesbians have been at the forefront of fighting for women's rights, and especially black lesbians like the late Audre Lord, talking about black women, racism and sexism from "way back in the day"!<BR/><BR/>Like you said, and as Larry Kramer mentioned in his interview, people are worrying about appearances in the face of real danger and so they refuse to learn!PVWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12410310404539584350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1752646546511186140.post-54786524457678959582009-04-05T09:27:00.000-05:002009-04-05T09:27:00.000-05:00Hello there, PioneerValleyWoman!You mentioned, "Oh...Hello there, PioneerValleyWoman!<BR/><BR/>You mentioned, <EM>"Oh, and another aspect of the public health message used to target druggies to get them to use clean works, not share needles, and practice safe sex. <BR/><BR/>How effective were they, I wonder?"</EM><BR/><BR/>Puh-leeze. I feel that the activist-types screaming for these needle programs are lying con artists when they claim that these programs help. From what I've seen of dope fiend clients at work, these people are <STRONG>totally</STRONG> incapable of rational thought pertaining to anything except how to get their next high.<BR/><BR/>On top of that, I read somewhere that dope fiend "etiquette" when sharing needles is that the woman gets the needle LAST.<BR/><BR/>You said, <EM>"Going to my bookcase, Khadija, here is a book I had from back then:<BR/><BR/>Women, AIDS and Activism: The ACT UP/New York Women and AIDS Book Group, published 1990."</EM><BR/><BR/>You've got an impressive bookcase! LOL!<BR/><BR/>You said, <EM>"From the preface: This book was originally produced by members of the Women's Caucus of the AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power (ACT UP) in conjunction with a teach-in about women and AIDS at the Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center in NYC in March 1989..."</EM><BR/><BR/>Note that ACT-UP was involved in producing this book. Also note that most straight Black folks WON'T go anywhere near <EM>any</EM> meeting at <EM>any</EM> place called "the Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center." After all, if one is seen wandering in & out of such places, folks might think one is gay/lesbian! And then you <STRONG>really</STRONG> have a social problem.<BR/><BR/>All of this Fantasy Island, magical thinking is why I have no patience for listening to Blacks talk about "we need programs." <STRONG>We won't avail ourselves of the programs that already exist! We don't need any more programs. We need some common sense.</STRONG><BR/><BR/>This also ties into the passive, incurious mindset that Lisa talked about in her comment to the Larry Kramer post. If you hear of, and personally KNOW of, people who are dropping dead of a plague, why <EM>wouldn't</EM> you read up about it? Why <EM>wouldn't</EM> you take steps to protect yourself from infection?<BR/><BR/><STRONG>Some things are just too stupid.</STRONG> And I'm getting to the point with this issue that I've reached with the notion of feeding starving people in Africa: STOP trying to help them! I know it sounds Ayn Rand-ian, but hear me out.<BR/><BR/>If the people of these societies (and by similar stupidity, AAs) REFUSE to fix the cultural dysfunctions that are literally KILLING them, then it's just as well that they die out. And clear space for more sensible people to effectively use the natural resources in those countries.<BR/><BR/>I know that in terms of AAs, I'm NOT going to beg anybody to save their own life. If they're that stupid and determined to remain on Fantasy Island, then the rest of us are better off without them.<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and solidarity.Khadijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732325133964607276noreply@blogger.com