Introduction To All Posts:
Black women’s problems with Black men started in Africa LONG before the arrival of the Arab man and the White man.
Black men have been betraying Black women since BEFORE the White man ever came to Africa. If you haven’t already done so, please read the following 2 posts:
This is the last thing I plan on saying about the
recent election of Donald Trump as the 45th U.S. President. [Which I predicted in Dystopia Now, Part 2: Reaping The Whirlwind Of Symbol Over Substance & Lesser Evilism Politics.] Obviously, this election result represents a crisis
for certain demographics of African-American Black women:
- It’s a crisis for BW of child-bearing age who have not yet gotten their birth control strategy on-point. See Get an IUD Before It’s Too Late
- It’s a crisis for BW who are dependent on various type of welfare. See Things Are About to Get Much Worse for Poor Americans
- It’s a crisis for those Black male-identified BW who are addicted to Sista Soldiering (unreciprocated protesting on behalf of Black males’ lives when the masses of BM have demonstrated time and again that they don’t give a damn about BW’s lives). See Donald Trump Cabinet: Anti-Black Lives Matter Sheriff David Clarke Eyed For Department Of Homeland Security
Nevertheless, this election result ALSO represents a
once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for wise African-American Black women:
It’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to
collectively get off the bullseye.
It’s an opportunity to NOT be perceived as “Anti-American” Activist/Public
Enemy #1.
It’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to let
somebody ELSE be at the top of racist White Americans’ hate list! Which could literally mean the difference between
life and death for you as a BW in the near future.
Specifically, it’s an opportunity to let various
other demographics (Black males, White women, Latinos, Asians—really, everybody
else who’s not a BW) fight their own
battles and take all the hits from the crackdown that’s coming once Trump gets
into office. Instead of gullible, idealistic BW continuing to serve as human shields for all these other people who never reciprocate that favor.
Google is your friend. You can find for yourself the
“receipts” showing that a majority of
White women (53%) voted for Trump. That 29% of Latinos voted for Trump. That
29% of Asians voted for Trump. That 13% of Black males voted for Trump.
All of the above, while only 4% of Black women voted
for Trump.
Everybody else left BW standing ALL ALONE on the
battlefield fighting for Hillary Clinton. See Black women — Hillary Clinton’s most reliable voting bloc — look beyond defeat
If You Want To Thrive, You’ll Stand Down & Shut
Up About Politics & Other Controversies
I republished the following post from Bougie BlackGirl during Part 8 of this series, Dystopia Now, Part 8: Personal Victory Has a Code Name—It’s Called “Stealth.” The wise advice that she gave is so important (and has saved so many BW from letting their
mouths get them demoted or fired),
that I’m republishing it again here (emphasis in highlighter):
If you are dealing with a tense work environment today, regardless of who you voted for and people ask you about the election, this is what I want you to do.1. Don't argue. If you are a woman of any race, a religious minority, LGBTQ and/or a person of color, people will jump on any arguments you get into to justify their stereotypical views. Don't give them ammunition!2. Don't let this election mess with your money. Take a deep breath and be strategic. Leave the emotionalism behind. Instead think like a politician. Sadly, people see emotionalism is a sign of weakness and immaturity. If you're a woman, we already know this.3. When someone asks you about the election, become a unifying force. Say, "The voters made a decision and I respect their choice. Now is the time to bring our country together." It's short, simple and to the point. Not only that, it is patriotic. Who can resist patriotism?Doing these things displays that you, unlike everyone else, are in control of your emotions. It makes you look mature, above the fray and displays professionalism other coworkers will admire. Be strategic and smart. This is about your quality of life and your ability succeed. Remember you represent your job, business and brand.You will survive. Good luck all.BBG
I would also strongly urge you to listen to what
Mrs. Dee Dee Lefrak of the excellent Black Women With Other Brothers Facebook page is telling you. What Dee Dee is telling y’all is so important that I’m
republishing two of her latest posts here:
Here in San Francisco many Hispanics are depressed over the president elect. Hey they'll get over it just like black people have gotten over everything I don't have much empathy for those who haven't shown empathy to me.Here in San Francisco many Arab Muslims are reporting an uptick in verbal hate crimes since the election. Before the election some of those same people might not have been so nice to me.Before the election some of those same people might've had the attitude that they were better than me, as a Black woman.Today I am not a target today I am happy about it.
I’m happy Dee Dee said it, because she’s absolutely correct!
Did you see or hear of any White women, Latinos, Asians or Black males protesting on behalf of the 15 year-old Black girl in a bikini who was slammed to the ground by a WM cop during a 2015 pool party in McKinney, Texas? I didn’t. That girl child is still dealing with repercussions from being attacked.
Did you see or hear of any White women, Latinos, Asians or Black males protesting on behalf of the teenage Black high school girl who was flipped over her desk and then dragged across the classroom floor by a WM South Carolina school officer? I didn’t. In fact, negro male students and others protested in support of the WM cop who manhandled that teenage Black girl.
These are just a few “receipts” about how unconcerned these various other demographics are when BW and Black girls are physically attacked by grown men. Again, Google is your friend—you can find more documented incidents if you look.
Don’t let me get started on how racist many (most?) Arab Muslims are against Black people in general. You may not be aware of this, but Arabs routinely refer to any and all Blacks by the Arabic word for “slave.” And they generally refuse to stop doing it. I’m an African-American Muslimah, and I don’t have any warm, fuzzy feelings about Arab and Pakistani Muslims—because of their rabid racism against Blacks. Most of them can burn, as far as I’m concerned.
. . . And they probably will burn, in the end. Especially if there are more mass casualty attacks in the U.S. perpetrated by immigrant Muslims.
This country has taken a seriously BAD turn with this election and everything leading up to it. I hope I'm wrong, but it feels to me like the U.S. is going down the same ugly road as Nazi Germany and the implosion of what used to Yugoslavia. It's a nasty combination: Roughly half the White U.S. population is clamoring for an authoritarian regime and many of these same White voters are also chomping at the bit to engage in racial/ethnic cleansing.
Other so-called “people of color” were gleefully throwing Black women under the bus when they weren’t in White people’s cross hairs. What do you think these people will do as increasing numbers of White people put them in the very center of the bullseye?
Answer: These other so-called people of color will start talking about solidarity, and start looking to pull BW into their problems with racist Whites. They’ll try to pull BW into your assigned role as their human shield. Don’t let them drag you back into the center of the bullseye!
This leads me to my next point, which is something that came up while I still had the comment section open on the previous post (which was Part 8 of this series). I had the following exchange with a commenter:
Khadija said...
You're welcome! Thank you for your kind words about my blog and book; I truly appreciate it.
Anonymous,
You said, "Khadijah I know this may sound odd but would you think it would be helpful to black women if BWE became an organization that paid dues and provided services and scholarships specifically for black women. Many of us are not financially well off I know but would something like this be beneficial for sovereign black women and their daughters?"
I believe these are extremely dangerous times now**--it's not a good time to start any new organization called "Black"anything (or that has "Black" anywhere in its title). "Black" = target in the Trump era. Adding the word "Black" to one's organizational title = painting a bullseye on that organization that invites hostile scrutiny from local and federal law enforcement, and conservative White media.
I think a more circumspect way of handling such interests (for those who are interested in pursuing that kind of project) would be to form or incorporate a new sorority/Greek letter organization. A new sorority and/or Greek letter organization that happens adhere to BWE principles or whatever principles the participants wish to follow.....[ ]
These are dangerous days.
It’s dangerous in the Trump era, but there are still
plenty of opportunities for savvy Black women to thrive.
If you want to thrive, you
have to leave yourself some wiggle room. You have to give yourself room to maneuver.
The livelihood and life you save by standing down, shutting up about politics
and other controversies, and staying out of other people’s fights might be your
OWN.
