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What to Make ofBuzzfeed's “Rise Of The Black British Actor In America” Piece...
If Angela Bassett, Diahann Carroll & Vanessa Bell Calloway Were Starting Their Acting Careers Now, They’d Never Get Hired—And Many Of You Are Okay With That Result
Follow The Money & Resources Trail, Part 3: “12 Years A Slave” — Who Benefits? Primarily Outsiders Who Are NOT African-American Women
I intend for this to be the last post in this particular series. Because I see that a critical mass of readers have (finally) woken up enough to understand what I tried to tell some of y’all a little over a year ago. When I first raised questions about your rabid, knee-jerk, unsolicited and unreciprocated support of Lupita Nyong’o and 12 Years A Slave. It’s taken about a year for many of the negative consequences I could see coming as a result of your caping for Lupita and 12 Years A Slave to become manifest and slap some of y’all in the face. So now you get it. Thank God.
I haven’t enjoyed rubbing your noses in this mess.
It’s been necessary because too many of y’all are hardheaded and refuse to
admit having made an error in judgment in blindly supporting Lupita & Assorted Other Foreign Black
Entertainers. Instead of being willing to rethink and reconsider a
position, too many of you have the mental habit of “doubling down” on a mistake.
Which is not a good habit to have.I intend for this to be the last post in this particular series. Because I see that a critical mass of readers have (finally) woken up enough to understand what I tried to tell some of y’all a little over a year ago. When I first raised questions about your rabid, knee-jerk, unsolicited and unreciprocated support of Lupita Nyong’o and 12 Years A Slave. It’s taken about a year for many of the negative consequences I could see coming as a result of your caping for Lupita and 12 Years A Slave to become manifest and slap some of y’all in the face. So now you get it. Thank God.
The Minimal Bottom Line Of What You Must Do If You Don’t Want To Be Totally Erased As An African-American Black Woman
Most African-American Black women (AABW) can’t understand nuance.
Most AABW can’t understand (and won’t demand) on-par
reciprocity. From anybody. “On par” meaning
a dollar in exchange for a dollar. Not where an AABW gives a dollar to a
foreign-origin Black person and gets 1₵ in return from that foreign-origin
Black person. As various BWE and Common Sense writers have said, very few of AABW’s
interactions or relationships involve on par reciprocity.
This is why AABW are being erased and destroyed.
Most of us support people and things that don’t support us at all. Or we
support people who give us the equivalent of 1₵ for every $1 we give them.
By
your rabid, unsolicited, unreciprocated support of Lupita, 12 Years A Slave, and other foreign Black actresses,
you’ve
already put foreign Black actresses in charge of the Black Female Niche in American Hollywood! Here’s what these foreign Black entertainers who
are making their money and careers from impersonating historical
African-Americans think about YOU:
I don’t know about you, but I hate to see Latinos,
foreign Blacks and other outsiders climbing over the bones of dead AA civil
rights martyrs.
It also makes me sick to my stomach to see so many
gullible AABW automatically speaking in terms of “we” in reference to these African actresses. Stupidly assuming
that we’re all somehow on the same team. So many AA female morons grinning and
skinning while Lupita is climbing over our ancestors’ bones to get her
accolades. Dummies who assume they are winning while she wins.
It all reminds me of the slave asking the slave
master, “WE’s sick, boss?”
By
your rabid, unsolicited, unreciprocated support of Lupita, 12 Years A Slave, and other foreign Black actresses,
you’ve already put foreign Blacks in
charge of the image of AABW in American Hollywood. But it does NOT have to stay that way. What happens next
is up to you.
If you as an AABW want to avoid being totally erased
from the American media—erased and replaced by biracials and foreign Black actresses (like what happened in the recent movie Selma)—here’s the
minimum of what you must do:
STOP
supporting ANY movie or other entertainment product starring foreign-origin
Blacks.
STOP
supporting ANY movie or other entertainment product starring biracial women or
girls. (Meaning biracial women or girls who are not your specific
daughters—it’s common sense to support your own biracial daughter’s aspirations,
but DON’T expect any unrelated, non-kin AABW to support your biracial daughter’s
aspirations. Because doing so would bring no benefit to unrelated AABW.*)
This
isn’t about these foreign Blacks or biracials. It’s about SELF-LOVE and
SELF-PROTECTION for AABW.
*I hate to have to spell out this angle so plainly. Because
it makes AABW look stupid. But I do so because most AABW are incapable of
identifying (much less protecting) their own self-interests. I’ll quote a
comment I made over at the excellent blog, Not Your Girl Friday:
"[Other commenter],
Oh, my goodness . . . {raised
eyebrow} I know that most AA women have a programmed inability to identify
their own SELF-interests, much less advocate in support of their own SELF
interests. Because many of them have been programmed to perceive doing what
everybody ELSE does when acting in their own self-interest as somehow
“punishing” other people.
I’ll start by repeating part of
what I said in this post:
I said:
But what the vast majority of
“typical” AABW have in common is that they consistently put themselves and
their own interests as African-American Black women dead last. This upside-down, backwards way of
setting priorities is a large part of why AABW and girls are in the condition
they’re in.
Let me emphasize: Everybody’s perfectly free and welcome to set their own priorities however they wish. Any AA Black woman who wants to prioritize the interests of folks who are something other than AA Black women (over their own interests as an AABW) is perfectly free and welcome to do so.
I’m only talking about why I do what I do, and why I advocate what I advocate. God respects free will, and so do I."
If You’re Going To Socialize With Non-AAs, You Need To Understand They DON’T View The World The Way Most AAs Do
I talked about this specifically in terms of foreign-origin Blacks in the post Pay Attention to Nuances When Black PeopleSay They “Don’t Understand What Black Means.” But it really applies to all types of non-AAs, not just foreign Blacks.
It’s funny. Over the years when I’ve brought up these issues, many gullible AABW have assumed that I’m angry with or dislike foreign Black folks. I don’t dislike them as a blanket category; and I'm not angry with them. Actually, I’ve interacted with them (and with other folks with 3rd world heritage) more than most “typical” AAs. Having been around 3rd world immigrants, I see them more clearly than most AAs do (in particular new school AAs). Because I’ve never looked at foreign Blacks or Latinos or Asians or immigrant Muslims through rose-petal filters. I never assumed that they viewed the world the way “mainstream” AAs do. Especially not the way most new school AAs view the world. They DON’T.
Here’s the primary difference that mainstream AAs (and in particular new school AAs) need to understand:
Mainstream AAs—especially new school AAs—go through life assuming that there are (and will always be) various outsider-created, stranger-created (typically government-created) safety nets in existence. That underlying belief has LOTS of implications and it impacts how people navigate social interactions in all sorts of ways. Big and small.
By contrast, 3rd-world heritage immigrants come from cultures and countries that typically don’t have stranger-created, government-created safety nets! Those cultures that do have functioning government-created safety nets like in South Korea or Japan, don’t expect those government-created services to pick up all the responsibilities of family. It typically doesn’t even occur to these people to expect strangers or the government to duplicate what they perceive as the traditional duties of family.
Which is why even though countries like South Korea
are materially rich and technologically modern, they don’t function like the
American welfare state culture. People there are raised and expected to take
care of themselves and their families. And if you don't have a functioning family to look out for you, that's too bad for you. It's also a reason for others to avoid any overly close affiliation with you with since there's obviously something lacking in your bloodline.
In my view, old school AA culture is somewhere
between the harsh realities underlying 3rd-world heritage immigrants’
view of the world and the Fantasy Island
Entitlement new school AA mindset. Old school traditional AA culture didn’t coddle or cuddle up with
dysfunction (out of wedlock childbearing, criminal activity, etc.).
Here are some examples of how these differing world
views play out in terms of the “typical” person’s behavior.
If you as an AA have something they want, the “typical”
African, Asian, Latino, immigrant Muslim, etc. is willing to pretend to be your
friend in order to access that resource you have. If you’re married to a
prominent or wealthy “Big Man” from their culture, the typical African, Asian,
Latino, immigrant Muslim, etc. will act friendly with you in order to
curry favor with that Big Man that you’re married to. Gullible AAs are quick to
assume that these folks are grinning and skinning because they genuinely like
the AA person. No, what they like is the resource or influence that AA person
has access to (or is married to).
Third world folks are very practiced at utterly
insincere grinning and skinning with whoever appears to be winning or successful.
Especially grinning and skinning with those persons who are close to successful
“Big Man” individuals from their cultures. Because this is a survival strategy—remember,
there’s no safety net in their cultures.
I’m not saying that 3rd world-origin
others are always insincere in their interactions with successful AAs (or AABW
married to successful Big Men from their cultures). I am saying that these
foreign Blacks (and others like Asians, immigrant Muslims, etc.) that you
believe are your friends would NOT like you if they didn’t perceive you as
successful or closely connected to a successful person. Unlike new school AAs,
these people are not raised to cuddle up to losers and dysfunctional people.
Foreign Blacks and other foreigners are NOT raised
to automatically expect strangers to feed, clothe, physically protect and
otherwise provide for them. Whatever physical safety, food, and other resources
they have will come through family, extended family, clan and assorted other
connections.
By stark contrast with the new school AA “Imma do me” attitude that only works to
the extent that there’s a stranger-generated, government-generated safety net
to catch these folks as they burn various bridges by showing their butts. For now.
Another difference is that there’s no mercy or
patience with losers in these cultures. They can’t afford it. Remember, there’s
no stranger-created, government-created safety net in a lot of these 3rd
world countries. By stark contrast with the new school AA Cuddle Up With & Coddle Losers values.
The overall pattern is that non-western, traditional
3rd world cultures tend to be absolutely merciless to dysfunctional people and
other categories of “losers.” It's acceptable to actively piss on and step on
losers in these societies. And unlike new school AAs, folks from those cultures
who are “losers” know better than to expect other people to throw pity parties
for them.
The bottom line is that there’s typically very
little middle ground in these 3rd world peoples’ cultural behaviors: They're either
grinning, skinning and trying to curry favor with people they perceive as
winners. OR they're pissing on people they perceive as losers.
Since collectively, AAs are a losing group, people
from these traditional 3rd world cultures are inclined toward
pissing on AAs’ heads. Which is what they’re currently doing in venues like
that The Rise Of The Black British Actor
In America article. It’s not necessarily personal. That's just how many of
these traditional 3rd world cultures “do.” These same people piss on
the weaker or “loser” ethnicities and individuals back home in their own
countries.
There’s no reason to be angry, it's just what they “do.”
Because this is a survival strategy—remember, there’s NO safety net in many of
their cultures. There’s no margin for pity parties and wasting resources on the
dysfunctional, nonproductive nuts in these countries. It’s a harsh world in a
lot of places.
You need to understand these dynamics if you plan on having productive interactions with foreign Blacks and other 3rd world folks.
As surprising as it may be to some of you, I'm not angry with these people. Because through friendships with various of them over the years, I've learned about the sort of cultural programming they've been raised within. In general, these people are raised to only act right with winners. I treasure some of the things I’ve learned from foreign friends over the years. I simply have firm boundaries in place to ensure that 3rd world foreigners never get the signal that it's a good idea or advisable to try to piss on me or anybody I care about. I would suggest you do the same.
