An effort to stand for justice and oppose the "ruinous traits" listed by Muslim scholars in all their forms: rancor, unhealthy attachments, malice, jealousy, vanity, stinginess, avarice, cowardice, indolence, arrogance, ostentation, heedlessness, anxiety, depression, and oppression.
Black women’s problems with Black men started in Africa LONG before the arrival of the Arab man and the White man.
Black men have been betraying Black women since BEFORE the White man ever came to Africa. If you haven’t already done so, please read the following 2 posts:
From today’s news in Chicago (this is an expressway
that connects Chicago to many of its western suburbs, including several affluent ones such as Oak Park and River Forest):
Black women’s problems with Black men started in Africa LONG before the arrival of the Arab man and the White man.
Black men have been betraying Black women since BEFORE the White man ever came to Africa. If you haven’t already done so, please read the following 2 posts:
The footage, released by the Gwinnett County Police Department, shows the intruders busting through the front door and rummaging the house in the…
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Praise God, this woman knew what to do and had a gun available to save her own life against these 3 armed (with their guns drawn) negro male home invaders. Too bad she wasn't able to kill all of them, instead of just one of them. HERE'S a link to the story. And here's the security video from the home:
. . . AA males hate BW as much as they hate the nonblack men who rule over them. No amount of BW’s mammy muling or Sista Soldiering for BM’s causes will ever change that.
Another (numerically MUCH larger) threat to consider is the growing number of AA males with dead eyes. I don’t know about you, but lately I’ve noticed that I’m seeing more and more random BM with dead eyes walking around in public. There’s a LOT of hate in those dead eyes. And guess who those BM With Dead Eyes perceive as the easiest and most appropriate target for that hatred? If you’re savvy, you’ll get ready just in case those dead eyes decide to run up on you. I hope I'm wrong about this. All I do know for sure is that I've correctly predicted a number of things that many other AA women didn't see coming until after-the-fact.
While even the more savvy and aware AA women in BWE circles aren’t taking as much action as they should to position themselves to survive and thrive, other folks are getting ready right now. Since I’ve been educating myself about guns and defensive shooting, I’ve been amazed at all the things that are out there.
Such as an entire magazine devoted to the responsible, practical and legal logistics of concealed carry.
Such as the NRA finding a BM sock puppet to promote their views among the African-American demographic. [Yeah, despite the article I linked to above, I think he’s a sockpuppet/Trojan horse. How often—if ever—do AA males create any sort of platform of their own? That was a rhetorical question—LOL!]
My point is this: Things are getting real in this Age of Economic Decline. Other folks in America (who are generally not AAs) are engaged in full spectrum preparation for whatever may come. If your jurisdiction allows for concealed carry licenses, I would urge you to get one. Now. Before your jurisdiction changes its mind and stops giving you that legal option. Even if you’re currently unsure about whether or not you’ll choose to own a firearm.
Don’t be like most of the Armed, Work At Responsible Jobs But Still Foolish AAs my firearm instructor knows: He knows a number of everyday, work-for-a-living AAs who own guns and carry concealed without having all the necessary licenses. Thereby setting themselves up to be arrested if they’re ever pulled over or caught with these guns. Typically, they have the guns because (like the instructor) many of them have had the experience of being robbed at gunpoint by young Black males. They have the guns, but they're not handling their business with the guns like responsible adults.
It’s better to have options and choices than to not have them.
There’s a whirlwind gathering around “mainstream” AA women, most of whom are sitting ducks (along with their helpless children).
You don’t want to be a sitting duck when the music stops and the funk gets uncut.
Black women’s problems with Black men started in Africa LONG before the arrival of the Arab man and the White man.
Black men have been betraying Black women since BEFORE the White man ever came to Africa. If you haven’t already done so, please read the following 2 posts:
All sorts of permanent changes away from Business As Usual are in progress. Right now. Will
you be ready for the emerging New Normal?
The Powers
That Be are generally not going
to tell you that we’ve arrived at Dystopia Now.
They’re not going to bring to your attention the
fact that the true maps of various
states and coastline areas have been transformed due to climate change. For
example, they’re not going to tell you that when you factor in areas that are
unavailable due to flooding, the state of Louisiana looks like thiscompared to the current map:
Nevertheless, there will be a time after the biggest changes have
come and have become entrenched.
There will be a time after homeowners have had to evacuate their homes in various
coastal areas for the last time. Because it will finally be clear to local
governments and everybody else that it makes no sense to keep rebuilding and
repairing homes in areas that will continue to flood each year.
You can position yourself to not only survive the
emerging changes but to thrive while
these changes become the New Normal. In
THIS previous post, I mentioned that preparedness is the next step after the
BWE basics (along with various resources to help you prepare). I also mentioned the History Channel docudrama “After Armageddon”
that aired a few years back. Here’s the entire docudrama:
I would suggest that you pay close attention to the “25 years later” final section that
begins at 3:22 in this clip from the last section of the docudrama:
Now is a good time to think about and start
preparing for your thriving lifestyle during the “after.”
Black women’s problems with Black men started in Africa LONG before the arrival of the Arab man and the White man.
Black men have been betraying Black women since BEFORE the White man ever came to Africa. If you haven’t already done so, please read the following 2 posts:
Blog readers have brought the latest BW-related
social media kerfuffle to my attention. I’ve seen various references to it
online, but I didn’t see anything that I felt was worth additional commentary
regarding this debacle until I watched Breukelen Bleu’s latest YouTube video WHO WAS AT THE GATE: A CASE STUDY, (which is an educational case study about the MUCH larger
issues behind the latest debacle).
At the end of the video, Bleu makes the very real
point that the first betrayal—that began thousands of years ago—that set Black
women (BW) up to be in the extremely vulnerable, despised and oppressed
position that we are now collectively in was BW’s betrayal of the sisterhood.
It was BW’s mass betrayal of other BW in favor of Black males that set BW up
for what Bleu refers to as “the Pimparchy”
(BM pimp BW instead of doing the hard work of protecting, providing, producing
and problem-solving that actual patriarchs do).
THIS
IS TRUE. And the question that Bleu asks throughout the
video is on point: Yes, “who WAS at the
gate?” in terms of protecting BW. And internally, far too many times, BW
have NOT “been at the gate” to protect
other BW from attacks. As I’ll explain later in this post, this failure/refusal
to “be at the gate” protecting the other
BW who have protected you is one of the dots that can be connected to this
latest social media debacle “dot.”
I’ll add another spiritual law tagline that I think
BW need to keep in mind: Lessons repeat until they are learned.
For the purposes of this post, I’ve decided to
imitate certain aspects of the way Bleu discusses this debacle. I believe there
were specific behavior patterns (as demonstrated in specific incidents that I’ll
mention and give “receipts” to in links) that led up to this debacle. But my
point is about the larger lessons to be learned, as opposed to the specific
incidents themselves.
So, in light of this decision, in this post I’ll
make references to “the Girl Who Swirls”
instead of calling out her name. Additionally, there’s no need to recite the
details of the “debacle” because everybody knows what happened with that.
*As the first point of bookkeeping, please note that
Evia, blog host of Black Female Interracial Marriage ezine was the blogger who
came up with the very descriptive phrase “perpetually surprised.” A phrase that
perfectly sums up how many African-American BW react to BM’s repeated transgressions against BW.
**As the second point of bookkeeping, let me note
for the record that I’m not a friend or supporter OR enemy of “theGirl Who Swirls.” I’m
not her friend or supporter because she backstabbed me and some other early BWE
writers several years back.
Many of y’all in the reading audience are fans of “dark
wisdom.” Given that fact, I just know that you won’t come at me with any
of that silly “lightworker” mess (as you call it) expecting me to forgive theGirl
Who Swirls’ betrayal of the early BWE bloggers—the same BW bloggers who
helped her (in front and behind the scenes) promote her No Wedding No Womb campaign. Ummm, NO. You can’t possibly expect me
to be dumb enough to do that. And you don’t have to be a dark wisdom supporter
in order to reject being a patsy and a mark. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught
that “a believer does not allow
himself to be stung twice from one (and the same) hole.”
I’m not a friend or supporter of “theGirl
Who Swirls,” but I’m also not an enemy of hers. If I were an enemy, I wouldn’t have done the post This is NOT Legal Advice. As I’ve said over the years when it’s come up, I’m indifferent to
her.
So, with all of the above in mind, here’s my 2₵
about the “the debacle.”
I don’t feel that “the debacle” was that huge a
mistake in the overall scheme of things
I’ve seen the headlines to the seemingly zillions of gloating YouTube videos
that those who hate “theGirl Who Swirls” have made in the
aftermath of her recent error in judgment. Yes, the decisions she made that led
up to the debacle were some bad choices that ultimately led to a racist WM
being “put on.” Maybe I’m missing something about this, but I don’t
feel that this error in judgment or the related fallout constitute any sort of “comeuppance”
or defeat. Here’s why:
First, seeing BM race to reward some WM bum for
bashing BW has been eye-opening for those BW who were still confused about
whether or not BM as a collective are mortal enemies to BW.
Second, NOBODY
has done more to uplift, promote and make possible a proverbial king’s ransom
of money for nonblacks than Black males. For just one example, many younger
African-Americans don’t even know that Jennifer Lopez ($300 million net worth) and Jim Carrey ($150 million net worth) were
given their first big break by a negro male—Keenan Ivory Wayans ($65 million net worth), co-creator of In Living Color.
I won’t even get into the countless additional
examples of the negro males who “put on” and made Fergie ($45 million net worth), Pink ($70 million net worth) and a slew of other nonblacks very, VERY rich. The list is endless. There’s
no comparison between the extreme wealth that negro males have consistently made possible for
J.Lo, Jim Carrey and the rest of them versus whatever coins some WM bum has
been able to get from YouTube after being publicized by “theGirl Who Swirls.”
Come
on, now. The bitter BM haters and BW handmaidens are reaching when they try to
blow this incident up out of proportion to negro males’ long-term, documented
track record of creating riches for
nonblacks who denigrate Blacks.
Refusal to accept feedback and correction
leads to repeating lessons
Effective activism requires mentors, or at minimum
peers. Not fangirls who will cheerlead any goofy decision one makes (and who will usually turn on you later down the road). It also
requires a willingness to take correction. When you refuse to take correction,
you set yourself up to repeat various lessons over and over again.
I’ve been
blessed during my BWE activism to have some peers that have corrected me behind
the scenes. They’ve caught my hand a couple of times and have prevented me from
making what would have been some extra errors in judgment. [Everybody has made at least a few mistakes in every
endeavor they’ve participated in.] But this worked because I was willing to consider
good-faith critiques and take correction from my peers.
Looking in from the outside, it seems pretty clear
to me that either “the Girl Who Swirls”
doesn’t have any blogging peer advisers that she consults with on a regular
basis before making some of
these decisions or she’s not listening to them (not willing to take critique
and correction from them).
When “the Girl
Who Swirls” refused to accept private feedback and correction about this
behavior pattern, she was NOT“standing at the gate” to protect her
BW-centric blogger colleagues. Lessons
repeat until they are learned.
When “the Girl
Who Swirls” did all of the above and put on a big show of publicly playing victim
[with some revisionist history about what had actually happened between
her and several early BWE bloggers] for her blog audience, she was NOT“standing
at the gate” for BW. Lessons repeat
until they are learned.
Most importantly in terms of not having to repeat
lessons:
When “the Girl
Who Swirls” did all of the above, she broke fellowship with multiple
BW-centric blogging peers and THREW AWAY a source of good-faith feedback that would’ve
prevented her from having to learn so many BW-centric activism lessons
the hard way!
Lessons
repeat until they are learned.
Like I said, it seems pretty clear to me that either
“the Girl Who Swirls” doesn’t have
any peers that she consults with on a regular basis before making some of these decisions or she’s not listening
to them. Because if she did, she would STOP
endangering her children’s lives by flossing photos of them and giving her huge
numbers of deranged haters so many personal details about where her children
can be found. Now, THIS is a lesson that I hope and pray does not have to
repeat.
As I said, I’m not a friend, supporter OR enemy to
“the Girl Who Swirls.” I’m indifferent
to her. I’m somebody who will never put myself in a position for her to
backstab me again. She’s never apologized or done anything to try to “make
right” regarding the above-mentioned transgressions. I’m not going to get “stung from the same hole”
twice. But I do care about the
safety of children. Especially the safety of Black girls and young women.
“The
Girl Who Swirls” has already complained in the past
about the male perverts who’ve sent in disgusting comments about her oldest
daughter. Since she knows those malicious freaks are out there, why does she continue
to give them so much information about her children? If any of y’all in the
audience are truly friends with “the Girl
Who Swirls,” then I hope you’ll urge her to STOP putting out so much information about her children. Every time
I see somebody flossing their children online, I say a prayer for those
children’s safety.
Anyhoo, similar dynamics apply across the board. Lessons repeat until they are learned.
I recall being disappointed years back to see a
number of long-time BWE blog readers who ran out to support the Redtails movie that erased BW from their
own history. These readers just couldn’t comprehend why BWE writers took issue
with BW supporting that movie. When the topic came up for discussion, some of
them even played dumb and pretended not to know what basic ideas like
reciprocity and BW putting their interests first meant. Lessons repeat until they are learned.
The lessons repeated with various Anti-BW Hate Campaigns Disguised As Movies
such as Straight Out Of Compton. The
lessons repeated, and some of these same women finally caught a clue by the
time it came to the BM director-rapist’s movie Birth Of A Nation. Praise God!
We
ALL live and hopefully learn.We ALL have human frailties (as I discussed in THIS post).
Sometimes
people don’t have the emotional resources to entertain negative feedback and
correction. Sometimes people are too caught up in youthful arrogance to
entertain negative feedback and correction.
I know for myself that I find the youthful arrogance
routine to be triggering (as they say in modern psychobabble talk). I find it
triggering because it has taken me YEARS to clean up and correct a life-damaging
20+ year detour created by the absence of active guidance from my mother. As
Rev. Della Reese correctly said in one of her sermon podcasts, “Learning life lessons by trial and error is
hard on the body and soul.” It’s
so much better to learn by good guidance and mentoring. So, I don’t understand
the degree of youthful arrogance that Young
(& Usually) Suffering BW display. As a teenager and young woman, I
listened to and was thankful for the few pearls of good guidance that the older
women around me gave.
The
TL;DR version of my my 2₵ about the “the debacle.”
The so-called debacle is not that bad. Not at all
like the way Bitter BM Haters and their Handmaidens want to pretend.
Seems to me that the debacle is most likely the
result of either: (1) not having any blogging peer advisors that she consults
with on a regular basis before
making some decisions; or of (2) not listening to them (an unwillingness to
take critique and correction from them).
Refusal to accept good-faith feedback and correction
leads to repeating lessons.
Lessons
repeat until they are learned.
We
ALL live and hopefully learn.
As
noted in THIS post, The BWE movement’s message has become mainstream and has
WON. There’s no going back to the way things were pre-BWE.