Anyhoo, the general refusal to disconnect from non-productive and/or actively harmful things isn’t a dynamic that’s limited to Black female slave consumers. Almost any type of positive change creates internal resistance within the person who’s contemplating making a positive change.
HERE'S an excellent blog post that discusses these dynamics. In order to reach escape velocity into a self-actualized life, you have to disconnect from anything and everything that’s pushing you down.
Be sure to read the blogger One Less Soldier's excellent follow-up post Houston… We Have A Problem: Happily Adrift In Our Own Demise… And Other Little Sticky Wickets.