Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Please Read And Forward This Post By The Black Woman Think Tank


The dynamics discussed in THIS recent Facebook post over at the Black Woman Think Tank have previously been discussed in BWE circles over the years. But I’ve never seen the message stated in such a concise manner. It’s important enough that I strongly urge readers to read this post right now—and the comments which are also extremely enlightening. And then to forward the post to the AA women in your lives that you care about. It’s just that important and to the point.
Evia has talked about how BW desperately choose to believe that if they’re nice to (and mule and cape for) BM and others, then these people will somehow automatically be nice to them. African-American (AA) mammy mules continue to believe this even as they’re taken for granted, disrespected and otherwise mistreated in a variety of ways. AA Sista Soldiers are Stuck On Stupid in choosing to believe that if they continue to support BM then a Black utopia will somehow be ushered into existence. Even though this has never worked . . .
I know this intellectually. But I’ve still been emotionally shocked at the spectacle of mammy mules and Sista Soldiers putting their lives—and their children’s lives—at risk by manning the front lines at protest marches and riots in Ferguson, Missouri. Various BWE bloggers have been discussing the folly and downright madness of this:
I’m highlighting the BW Think Tank post above because she’s talking about the utterly false, emotionally-charged beliefs at the root of mammyism and Sista Soldiering. AND at the root of what has been horribly wrong for a very long time with AA women’s interactions with BM in general including their BM sons, nephews, etc.
It also reminds me of something a gentleman reader of my blog mentioned to me during an email conversation: His experiences with AA women have shown him that far too many AA women refuse to acknowledge reality. Instead of reacting to reality, they react to the way they believe things are supposed to be. Obviously, that behavior pattern does not benefit AA women.
I’ve read recent online discussions in which the mammy mules claim that they support BW risking their lives to march in Ferguson because “What if it was my son, husband, etc. that was shot down?” This is the same excuse the mammies and Sista Soldiers habitually give for their endless muling in support of BM. I’ve always known that particular stated motivation is a LIE, but I couldn’t quite put my finger on what was underneath that particular falsehood until reading recent discussions at the BW Think Tank Facebook page.
One of the commenters to another recent post over there clearly stated the TRUE nature of the mammy mules’ relationships with their sons: It’s EMOTIONAL INCEST.
The mammy mules are emotionally using their sons as replacements for the missing sperm donor or husband.
That’s why there’s such a strong vibe of “That’s my MAN!!!” coming off the mammy mules’ statements whenever they mention their sons. I’ve always perceived that “off” and sick undercurrent to the way most AA women talk about their sons. I’m just being totally candid here. Most (not just many, but most) AA mothers I’ve seen talk about their sons do so with the same emotional tenor in their voices that women tend to use when talking about the men they’re in relationships with. It’s a strange and creepy thing.
The other thing that let me know the mammy mules and Sista Soldiers were lying about what really drives their urge to coddle and carry grown-azz males is that this behavior is NOT rooted in love for these men. To truly love a man, a woman has to RESPECT him. And really, healthy men don’t just want their women to respect them, they want their women to ADMIRE them.
These mammy mules don’t truly love the BM they claim to be marching for. Instead, they’ve got some sick and twisted obsessions that they’re feeding with their behavior. Because by taking up mannish responsibilities, the mammy mules are demonstrating that they DON’T respect BM—including their sons, husbands, fathers, etc.—as men.
This is why that whole “What if it was your [Black] husband, son, father, brother, uncle, nephew, etc. who was gunned down by the police?” argument was unfathomable to me. As I said in my recent blog post, I STILL would not participate in a protest nowadays.
It would be up to the surviving MEN in my family to handle the family business regarding the killing of a relative. It would never occur to me to try to usurp their role as MEN. Because I respect their manhood. [As to my male relatives who are simply biologically male, they have shown themselves to be unworthy of my concern. I don't spend much mental energy on unworthy individuals.]
My father and other male relatives who are MEN would be deeply insulted if any woman—much less a woman who’s kin to them and knows them—acted as if they can’t play their position as men.
The other important thing about Breukelen Bleu’s post is that she’s pointing out the importance of looking at matters the way men see them. Too many AA women refuse to do that, and stay losing as a consequence. Back to that “What if it was your [Black] husband, son, father, brother, uncle, nephew, etc. who was gunned down by the police?” argument that I found incomprehensible: That argument didn’t compute with me because I know the REAL message the men in my family would receive  from my actions if I was crazy enough to go into combat for them.
Again, I’m going to be real and say this the rough way. The REAL message that men receive when mammy mules put themselves on the front lines for them is: “I feel that you’re a punk-azz b*tch who can’t handle your own business. So I—as a woman—have to step in and handle it for you.” THAT is the message that men receive from that she-male mammy mule and Sista Soldier behavior. That message p*sses men off.
That is one of the underlying reasons why unemployed and underemployed negro males resent, hate, and often beat the women who are foolish enough to financially prop them up. Men don’t like getting an allowance from a woman. A weak, trifling, no-value male will live off a woman, but he still resents the situation. And he’ll take that “allowance” that Boo-Boo The Fool gives him and spend it on romancing another woman who won’t spend money on him. A woman who doesn’t take up the man’s role.
Most men have different emotional needs from a relationship than what most women want from a relationship. As Breukelen Bleu notes, BW need to stop superimposing women’s thought patterns on men.
Also stop being the “Day 1 Chick” who nurtures and dates struggling men. [Head-scarf flutter in salute to commenter over there named Elizabeth who shared this link. Like I said, the comments are as informative as the post.]
The widely-observed pattern is that as soon as they get where they want to be in life, men dump the women who were with them before they became successful. This pattern applies on the individual level. It also applies on the group level.
A weak male (or group of males) will use a woman who’s foolish enough to take on manly responsibilities and prop him up while he struggles. But he doesn’t respect her. He doesn’t like her. He doesn’t value her. He certainly will never love such a woman. In fact, he usually comes to hate such a woman (or group of women).
Here are some “movement” examples that most AA women either don’t know or refuse to acknowledge:
  • Complaints from BW that W.E.B DuBois only used light-skinned women with naturally wavy hair as cover models for The Crisis Magazine.
  • Walter White of the NAACP dumping his Black wife of 20+ years for a White South African woman.
  • Dr. King cheating on Coretta with WW. All of which was audiotaped by Hoover's FBI, which tried to use these tapes to blackmail Dr. King into committing suicide.
  • Elijah Muhammad cheating on Sis. Clara Muhammad with dozens (if not hundreds) of mostly light-skinned women (and underage girls).
  • The Black Panthers' focus on having sex with non-Black women, as well as their extreme chauvinism. For those who don’t know about this, I would refer people to “A Lonely Rage: The Autobiography of Bobby Seale.” It's . . . eye-opening. In ways that Mr. Seale probably didn't anticipate when he wrote it.
  • Rev. “Baby Daddy” Jesse Jackson cheating on his wife. My mother kept an old magazine interview with Rev. Jackson from the early 1970s where he's quoted as saying “variety is the spice of life” when asked about his marriage (thereby publicly disrespecting and humiliating the wife who was with him when he had nothing).
The mammy mules and Sista Soldiers who think BM are going to appreciate or reward them for their support are delusional. The mammy mules and Sista Soldiers are also lying to themselves about what truly motivates their choices. They claim they do what they do out of love for the males in their lives. The mammy mules don’t love the BM in their lives; they’ve got some sick and twisted obsessions that they’re feeding with their behavior.
Again, stop being the “Day 1 Chick.” You want to be The Spoils that a man wins AFTER he has achieved success.

ADDENDUM. Especially don't be like the fool below, who is obviously Too Stupid To Live.
 

Thursday, August 14, 2014

African-American Women Who March In Ferguson, Missouri Are Fools With A Death Wish


The primary reason civil rights protest marches worked in the 1950s and 1960s was because of the Cold War.
Since most African-Americans don’t bother to study our own history, we don’t understand the unromantic ingredients that helped make the civil rights movement successful. Most of us have no idea about the huge role the Cold War played in the movement’s success.

To put it plainly, Uncle Sam was locked in a serious competition with his European cousin Soviet Ivan. By the 1950s, both of them were competing for influence among the newly-independent nations of the third world. Uncle Sam was deeply afraid that large portions of the planet might join an alliance with Soviet Ivan. Every time photos and news film leaked out of Uncle Sam mistreating his disenfranchised AA citizens, Soviet Ivan would publicize this to people in third world countries. Soviet Ivan would say, “Look at how racist Uncle Sam is! Look at how badly he treats his own Black citizens! That’s how Uncle Sam will treat you if you join his alliance.”

And so, Uncle Sam felt some external pressure to make concessions to the civil right movement because failure to do so was seriously undermining his foreign policy goals. During the Cold War, Uncle Sam had pragmatic reasons to care about how foreigners felt about him. Uncle Sam only cared because he had a serious, equally armed enemy who was courting these foreigners.


Protest marches don’t work anymore because, after the fall of communism, the U.S. no longer has to compete with another hegemon for ideological influence in the 3rd world.
The Soviet Union collapsed over twenty years ago. There’s no Cold War. Uncle Sam has no reason to care about how he or his actions look to anybody.

There’s NO modern day equivalent of the Soviet Union to embarrass the U.S. by making an international “fuss” if American police are filmed shooting you in the head while you foolishly engage in a protest over the police killing of a Black male. “No 1 curr.” Today’s political and foreign policy context is totally different than the set of circumstances that enabled the victory of the civil rights movement. Which leads to my next point.
21st century/War On Terror-era American police departments use military-style weapons far beyond what they need, or what some veterans say the U.S. military would use when doing crowd control. The modern-day American police reportedly have more firepower and apparently less fire discipline than military crowd control. Even WM combat veterans are alarmed by this.



These are Bosnian War, Afghan War and Iraq War combat veterans talking.

This is not a joke.

Know and trust that when you participate in one of these protests nowadays, you are literally putting your life on the line.

When you as an African-American (AA) woman participate in these protests, you are putting your life on the line for AA males who don’t and won’t march for you. You also put yourself at risk of being maimed when you participate in these protests. Will those same AA males appreciate you and your sacrifice if you get maimed and lose your outward beauty at one of these protests?

Imma say it the rough way: You’re a fool if you risk being maimed and killed for AA males who will go right back to calling you and other BW bitch, hoe, trick and THOT as soon as the protest is over. To the mammy mules who argue, “What if it was your [Black] husband, son, father, brother, uncle, nephew, etc. who was gunned down by the police?” My answer: I STILL would not participate in a protest nowadays. It would be up to the surviving MEN in my family to handle the family business regarding the killing of a male relative. It’s not my role as a woman to be on anybody’s front line serving as cannon fodder. It’s not a woman’s role to go into combat against males.


As I said in THIS POST, men fight other men; and protect the women of their group from being attacked by outsider men. At least that's how things operate among non-African-Americans. That’s how things operate among other ethnic and racial groups that have M-E-N among their collectives. [As opposed to being composed of non-protective males.]

A woman shouldn't be placed in a position to be on the front lines of any conflict with men. That's not anything to applaud. And the foolish AA women who engage in that bring death and destruction down on their own heads. In more ways than the obvious ones. Recent online discussions have highlighted that particular angle.


I strongly urge readers to check out the following two recent Facebook posts from the Black Woman's Think Tank. Here's a partial quote from each of them. You really need to read them in full along with the comments. 
Excerpt from THIS POST:

“Ladies. Just how far are YOU willing to go for the 'liberation' of the Black People? How much are YOU, personally, willing to give up to see the injustices against the Black Male, rectified? Are you willing to be beaten? Are you willing to be shot? Are you willing to DIE? And if you are, then what do you believe will happen AFTER he is liberated. Are you next in line? Will HE set YOU free? Will YOUR standing be any better than it is now? Has HE had a history of paying shit forward, and taking care of YOU, after you've taken care of HIM?
These are the types of questions you need to be willing to answer, before you go posting all this "Im am Trayvon' and "DONT SHOOT. I Want to Grow Up" stuff on your FB page and Avatar. You may want to ask yourself if YOU are ready to stand and FACE what you feel seeks to destroy Black Men, and are YOU willing to be taken out in the name of "The Revolution". Those of us who have a deeper understanding of certain kinds of energies, and have some understanding of Dark Wisdom, know how DANGEROUS it is to associate you or loved ones, image, with that of The Sacrifice - (something or someone that is used, slaughtered, compromised, negotiated, slain, abused, sold or imprisoned so that someone else can WIN!, benefit, avoid punishment or feed off of that energy). When you place YOUR image in the position of those who have already been Sacrificed, you are literally saying that YOU TOO, are willing to be used in that way.
In essence, THE VERY THING YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE PROTESTING AGAINST, YOU ARE ASKING FOR.
Many BW feel that is is their DUTY to rally, picket, protest, and lend their emotional, mental, economic and physical energies to the causes that seek to address the injustices black males experience that occur at the hands of outsiders. But since ONE SIDED LOYALTY is always at play in the BC, most BW will NEVER see their investment returned and will find that if and when THEY find themselves in a compromising position, they will NOT find their interests as vehemently defended as those they felt so compelled to rally for.
Breukelen Bleu and The Black Woman Think Tank., has a standing ‪#‎stayingoutofit policy when it comes to any of these very public battles to defend Black Manhood. . . .”

Excerpt from THIS POST:
“According to statistics, 10.8% of Black Males are married to non-black partners and 19.7% cohabitate with non-black women. And while actual numbers are hard to find, anecdotal evidence of the ever increasing number of mixed raced children that result from these marriages, cohabitations and relationships equal to a good portion- lets saaaayyy....20% of black males, having children by non-black women.
Now, I'm no statistician, and my math is rudimentary, at best, but in the end, it's clear that at least 20% of Black Men have ties to women who are NOT African or Black American and at least 20% of them have children, households, marriages, economic, genetic, sexual or emotional ties-that-bind to non-black chics in some way, shape or form. So in essence 20% of Black Men have women who are NOT African or Black American, but who SHOULD have a vested interest in Black Male issues, concerns and causes, by default.
So, as part of The Black Woman Think Tank's ongoing study of the oppression of the Black Male, I'ma need to see those women accounted for - that 20% represented in Ferguson, MO, and at the next rally, protest and riot... in every city...for any reason... and every cause, held on the Black Male's behalf. I mean, this IS a team effort, after all, and since BLACK women are being made to feel obligated to get in 'the good fight', then Im'a need to see - standing RIGHT next to Al Sharpton and The NAACP - Becky, Mei Ling and Rosita... and I'ma need them all to be screaming "No Justice. No Peace", "DONT SHOOT!" and "Free Lil Boosie ", in whatever "native" tongue they used to prove to negroes just how 'exotic' and 'worthy' there were of his attention and time. Im'a need for Ms. Pakistan, Ms. Guatemala and Ms. Arabia to stand next to the hundreds of Sistas that show up to defend the honor and rights of Black Men every year. . .”
I totally agree with Breukelen Bleu about this issue. In the first post mentioned above, she  referenced two recent news stories of BW who were killed after attending anti-gun violence events in support of the [already dead] AA/Black community. With all due respect to the sincerity of these two deceased women, I believe they unwittingly and inadvertently offered themselves up as human sacrifices by participating in those type of Sista Soldier activities.
 
Self-actualizing women gravitate toward neighborhoods and collectives that offer greater physical safety and security. And away from physically dangerous Blackistans and Blackistanis. Including away from Blackistani rallies and meetings.
 
God respects free will, and so do I. It’s your life. You can risk it whenever and for whomever you wish. I’m just telling you why I won’t be out there protesting with you in defense of Black males. I value my life too much to risk it like that. AA males need to learn how to handle their own business for themselves. Or not. It’s on them.

 

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Just Say "NO!" To The Attempted "Columbusing" Of The BWE Social Justice Movement

I'm not surprised that there are colored girls out there trying to rewrite the history of the Black Women's Empowerment (BWE) social justice movement. That's what usually happens when a movement succeeds (along with an influx of opportunistic latecomers).

An attempt at revisionist history came up in the comment section to the excellent post "What's In a Name?" over at the blog Not Your Girl Friday. It was good to see a lot of people who were present at BWE's beginning (particularly Evia, blog host of Black Female Interracial Marriage) talk about the actual history of the BWE movement.

The REAL history of the BWE movement from those who were there at the beginning and in the early days

Those who are interested in the early history of BWE should read through the comment section. I'll quote some of the comments here.

I said:

Khadija Nassif   


Josephine,

On the one hand, I like loyalty. In terms of my own ethnic group, I think it’s a very good thing that more AABW are learning to speak up in support of the BW who helped them as individuals. I hope that more readers who appreciated Rev. Lisa Vazquez’ work speak up in support of her work and add their voices to this conversation.

I can disagree with another activist regarding certain issues, and still deeply appreciate that person’s work regarding other issues. That’s how I feel about Rev. Lisa’s work. I have no problem or hesitation in praising the aspects of a person’s work that I agree with. As I did when I praised the parts of Rev. Lisa’s work that I’m thankful for—such as her emphasis on introspection (as I said in my earlier comment).

It’s okay for activists and anybody else to have points of disagreement.

You said, “Rev Lisa Vasquez never once said that she was not black.” Who said she said anything like that? I haven’t seen anybody say that here. I don’t know what it is that you’re responding to when you say that, because I didn’t see anybody make that claim.

You said, “All of this has nothing at all to do with race, and when one group shows pride in their ethnicity, they are not offending another group who may share the same race with them.”

Showing pride in one’s ethnicity is a good thing (which I think I’ve mentioned in my earlier comment above). I have pride in my ethnicity. All that is great. So, I can agree with that part of your statement that I quoted above. Nevertheless, nobody gets to pick and choose what another person finds offensive.

I don’t celebrate Kwanzaa, but I DO believe in its principles, including the principle of Kujichagulia/Self-Determination for all peoples of the world. Every people’s right—including AAs’ right—to define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves, and speak for ourselves.

That means outsiders—any and all persons who self-identify as something other than AA (persons who self-identify as somebody ELSE)—don’t get to define AAs’ ethnic identity or culture. Much less get to claim that AAs don’t have one. Outsiders don’t have any legitimate place in that type of internal conversation. And I notice that nobody even tries to go there with anybody except AAs. Because other people have boundaries and would never stand for it.

You said, “The bulk of the ideas of the BWE movement comes from Rev Lisa Vasquez’s blog which was entitled: Black Women Blow the Trumpet.”

{record scratch sound} NO. No, I’m not going to let that revisionist history pass. NO, “the bulk of the ideas of the BWE movement” DID NOT come from Rev Lisa Vasquez’s blog which was entitled: Black Women Blow the Trumpet. NO, that’s not true or accurate.

Rev. Lisa Vazquez was ONE OF SEVERAL early voices. As I recall, the BWE pioneers such as Evia, Sara, Halima, Focused Purpose (who in recent times has focused on religion) and some others were already blogging before Rev. Lisa became known.

In my view, what Rev. Lisa DID do moreso than anybody else in the early years of BWE was:

(1) bring the importance of introspection to the BWE reading audience’s attention (she took the conversations deeper than where they had been at that point in time);

(2) popularize and spread the idea of “divestment”/BW divesting from the Black community; and

(3) tirelessly spread the word about her blog AND about other BWE blogs throughout all corners of the Black blogosphere (unlike some of the BWE-lite latecomers, Rev. Lisa’s efforts didn’t revolve around self-promotion).

I greatly admired the systematic way she made the rounds at all sorts of Black blogs spreading the word about (and praising the work of) several BWE bloggers. She would comment at (and spread the word about divestment at) all sorts of “mainstream” Black blogs that I just didn’t have the fortitude to deal with. I often had the experience of running across all sorts of Black blogs that were new to me, and discovering that Rev. Lisa had already been to that blog several months earlier leaving comments. Including comments about divestment, and also comments that encouraged readers to check out some of the pioneers’ blogs.

Among the other praiseworthy accomplishments I mentioned above, Rev. Lisa Vazquez was quite thorough, systematic and generous in helping to increase the audience for other BWE blogs. Thereby increasing the reach of the ENTIRE BWE movement.

I believe that BWE’s success came sooner than it otherwise would have BECAUSE of how thorough, organized and systematic Rev. Lisa was in spreading the word.

That was one of several things I deeply admired and respected about Rev. Lisa’s work. Again, having points of disagreement does NOT equal condemning someone’s work.
 
An African-heritage long-time BWE commenter named JaliliMaster said: 

  • JaliliMaster
  • “Rev Lisa Vasquez never once said that she was not black. The bulk of the ideas of the BWE movement comes from Rev Lisa Vasquez’s blog which was entitled: Black Women Blow the Trumpet.”

    I have great respect for the work she did, and her blog made me think about certain things very deeply, explored issues that were only previously touched upon, etc, so I’ll just ignore that comment, but say that you are wrong. There were several early pioneers in BWE, Rev. Lisa was one of them. But to say that her blog provided the “bulk of ideas of the BWE movement “, does that even sound credible to you. Just think of what it is you are actually saying! [ . . . ]

    Another (African-heritage) long-time commenter named FoxyCleopatra said:

    FoxyCleopatra   
    Josephine,

    As much as I am trying hard to give you the benefit of the doubt that you are not trying to stir up nonsense….I can’t. I have re-read the comments that i as well as others made and cannot figure out what it is you are responding to. Who said anything about Rev. Lisa not calling herself black? In fact didn’t Jalilimaster mention that she said she was black Puerto Rican? My point simply was that why is it fine for other black ethnic groups to identify as such and have pride in their ethnicity/nationality but then some people want to deny AAs the same? What does me making this point have to do with the comment you wrote.

    As for this….”The bulk of the ideas of the BWE movement comes from Rev Lisa Vasquez’s blog which was entitled: Black Women Blow the Trumpet.”……..I’m not even going to go there with you. I had something to write in reply but after reading Jalilimaster, Khadija and Evia’s reply, I’ve got nothing more polite to add. Black Women Blow the Trumpet was definitely one of the 5 or so early BWE blogs I used to frequent the most, but to say the bulk of BWE comes from her is beyond disrespectful to the other BWE pioneers! By the way, didn’t Rev. Lisa dislike the term ‘movement’ being used to describe her blog?

    • By the way, didn’t Rev. Lisa dislike the term ‘movement’ being used to describe her blog?
      True, she insisted that it was a ‘Think Tank’, and I had no problem with that position, so that is what I referred to her blog as.
    •  
    • It is good to give people their due, but in the process, be wise to not diminish or erase the effort that others put in.


    A White commenter who was present in the early days of BWE said:
    “The bulk of the ideas of the BWE movement comes from Rev Lisa Vasquez’s blog which was entitled: Black Women Blow the Trumpet.”

    This is not so. The main voices of the early days of BWE were Evia, Halima, Gina at WAOD, Aimee, Sara and a few others. The Rev Lisa was there as a voice in the conversation, not as the leader of thought.


    Evia said:
  • @Josephine–You said:

    “The bulk of the ideas of the BWE movement comes from Rev Lisa Vasquez’s blog which was entitled: Black Women Blow the Trumpet.”

    Now, Josephine, why did you come here with this LIE? Do you think we all have amnesia? I had retired my boxing gloves but I’m a tireless fighter when I need to fight, so I’m ready to slug this one out forever–if necessary. Enough is enough! So put up or shut up! Normally, I stand clear of these types of online slugfests but I’m ready. This is just WRONG.

    I, too, value Rev. Lisa for urging AA and other bw to look inside at the role they play in their plight, but unless you can show and prove that Rev. Lisa started posting the primary talking points of BWE ideology–and in this particular framework–prior to July 2006, I’m calling BS on this. One of the MAIN reasons why I’ve hesitated to move my main site and the various related sub-sites of mine on Typepad is because I KNOW that folks like you are going to step forward to say that they, or someone else of their choosing, are ones who invented BWEology. We know how this goes. I knew the Columbusing of BWE would begin at some point because it’s been effective!! So, in the interim, you’ve decided to advance Rev. Lisa’s name. LOL! Are you serious or is this a trial balloon you’re floating? A LOT of us (Khadija, the names she mentioned, etc) have contributed to this body of work and some of us beat the drum tirelessly about various aspects of it more than others, and some of us have shrilly amplified certain parts of it more than others, and Rev. Lisa made a worthy contribution, but she was NOT the contributor of BULK of these ideas.

    I got into putting forth and promoting some of these major BWE concepts AFTER I ran across Halima Anderson under attack on a black nationalist site back in late 2005/early 2006. I looked her up and saw that she was promoting IR dating for bw who were interested in going that route, and since I was IR married, I wrote to her to lend my support to what she was doing.. Also, there was another woman, a black biracial British woman whose writing pointed me at the ways in which bw’s image was being defiled by bm, but despite how she was aware what bm were doing, she still defended them.

    Of course, Halima pointed out the vileness of this pattern, and pointed out that a very similar desecration of bw’s image was occurring in the UK by bm there. I was of the same mind as Halima and tossed my hat into the ring because no one was going to freely pee on my grandmother’s image and AA women of her ilk–on MY watch without a fight. So, if anything, HALIMA ANDERSON, is the originator of both the foundation and some of the current flesh and blood ideas of BWE. Mind you, this was 2 years before I ever heard of Rev. Lisa. So, you’ve got to PROVE that she was writing about these concepts PRIOR to July 2006 because that’s when I started from the beginning talking about a host of very basic concepts like ‘first and foremost’ and bw supporting other bw and only supporting those who support them (RECIPROCITY)–that to me were just simple common sense.

    So, where’s your PROOF? Surely, you have it. Other than that, you must think we are FOOLS. But if you can prove it, I’m more than woman enough to apologize to you.

    I was the one who put forth the commonsense concepts such as bw Marrying Well, hypergamy, the Magical Thinking that plagues many AAbw, the DBR mentality of many AA men, the critical need for bw to Vet, escape/marry out, blacks being perpetually surprised, AAbw being okey-doked, the need for a RUCOSS, the value of intentional communities for AAbw, and I could cite some more key concepts that are now a part of BWE. Most of my billion-word articles are still online–lol– along with the dates and the ones that are not there on Typepad are on Bloigger.

    Okay . . . .Insofar as anyone claiming they’re NOT AA, I’ve never cared about that. I’m AA and my ancestors were too. I don’t care whether anyone else is. I’m enough all by myself as long as others who say they’re not NOT AA don’t step up to share in the any part of the pie that AAs have fought for and won and don’t look for support from AAs when their azz is being fried.

    I do NOT approve of trying to force anyone to acknowledge their AA-ness. I don’t care about them and if they ever need help, my boundaries are always in place, so I can ignore them easily. I don’t even waste my energy talking to them. And it sickens me that other AAs try to force other blacks to be black or be AA. UGH!!! It shows a total absence of racial or group pride to try to claim people who don’t want to be a part of your group or race. Being an old school AA is something GREAT to me!! I don’t need anyone else to share in that greatness. However, my sons are partially Nigerian and partially AA. We emphasized their Nigerian culture when they were growing up because there were a lot of progressive, family-minded Nigerians around them who were very willing to practice and teach the culture, whereas so many AAs have abandoned the fledgling culture that AAs used to have–that culture that brought us up to and through the Civil Rights era and enabled us AND ALL other blacks in this country, ALL POCs, ww, and gays to make great strides in this country. It’s not my or my children’s fault that others AAs have lost their minds and willfully abandoned AA culture. I understand the importance of culture, and I knew I needed a cultural umbrella under which to raise my sons.

    I am VERY thankful to the Nigerians and other Africans who were a big part of helping to shape my sons into the young men they are today and to the Nigerians and other Africans who contributed in various ways to supporting ME. The fact is that I’ve always been able to count a lot on Nigerians and other Africans for support during the decades and even now when more than a few AAs refused to support my entrepreneurial pursuits or only do so when they felt like it. It’s the stone cold truth when Khadija says that AAs tend to boycott other AAs products and services, no matter how high quality they are.

    So, I am always going to support those who support me and I will support them first, since I believe STRONGLY in on-par Reciprocity.

     
    A commenter who was present at BWE's beginning named ForeverLoyal said:

    Just popping in to say that I also remember the actual history.

     -I was on Evia’s site back when it still had the hostname suffix on it.

     -I read Racial Realist when Khadija commented regularly there (and was still a black nationalist. As an aside, she was such a strong communicator that I used to believe that if she was still hanging in there, maybe things weren’t so? so? dire in the black community. After she changed her position it was like “Well damn. There goes that”)

    -I was on Halima’s site in the early days as well as Focused Purpose. She did a post announcing the start of Khadija’s first blog

     -I was on Rev Lisa’s site in the early days as well. Her contributions were invaluable.

     -Aimee’s blogging career was brief but made a major contribution.

    I am another one who is not going to stand by and let the greasy lie (lol stole that phrase from Khadija) that Rev Lisa is almost completely responsible for the movement be told without a challenge.

    Nope. Nope. Nope.

     Not today, not ever.

    And I have a couple of Evia’s books with the dates on the posts.

     Anyone interested in the history can order them on Amazon, and I recommend them. I read them as they were posted online, but flipping through the book and going through them again gives a real appreciation for how it was in the beginning.

     
    One of the biggest ironies in the history of BWE
     
    For those who don't know, Halima (the blogger Evia referred to in her comment) is a Caribbean-British woman. I'm happy Evia commented because she filled in the blanks of some things that happened before I came on the BWE scene.
     
    For me, the biggest and most amusing irony in the history of BWE is that many of the BWE pioneers and early BWE supporters first became aware of each other at a Black Nationalist blog!
     
    I said:


  • ForeverLoyal & Evia,
     
    One of the biggest ironies in the history of BWE is that many of the BWE pioneers and early BWE supporters first became aware of each other at the Black Nationalist blog that you both mentioned. For those who don’t know, it was called Ruminations of a Racial Realist (as ForeverLoyal mentioned). That blog was written by a biracial Black British woman who is the daughter of (yet another) Black male Black Power hypocrite and a WW.

    ForeverLoyal, you said, “-I read Racial Realist when Khadija commented regularly there (and was still a black nationalist. As an aside, she was such a strong communicator that I used to believe that if she was still hanging in there, maybe things weren’t so? so? dire in the black community. After she changed her position it was like “Well damn. There goes that”)”

    {chuckling} Yes, I was still in my Black Nationalist trance when I started commenting there. That Black Nationalist trance had been shaken (but not yet shattered) when I learned about the Dunbar Village Atrocity through Gina’s blogging at What About Our Daughters. The Dunbar Village Crime Against Humanity was my first realization that things were even worse than I realized among the AA collective. I knew the AA collective had problems, serious problems. But at that point I still mistakenly believed that AA men “were in it together” with AA women and children. The “conscious brothers” over at the Racial Realist blog cured me of that delusion!

    What the “Hotep,” BM ankh-wearing hypocrites and their BW Sista Soldier enablers/supporters don’t realize is that AA men’s ongoing failures and DBR behavior is the greatest and the most successful “recruiting sergeant” ever for spreading the BWE message. By their ongoing refusal to protect and provide for BW and children, AA men are burning their bridges with ever-increasing numbers of AA women. Including the BW who previously felt politically obligated to support them—such as former Black Nationalist women such as myself.

    [Recently, it was another watershed moment to see the middle-of-the-road For Harriet blogger do a post explaining why she was NOT going to march for Eric Garner (basically due to BM's ongoing refusal and failure to reciprocate BW's support).]

    It was the series of deeply selfish, DBR-type comments from so-called “conscious brothers” at the Ruminations of a Racial Realist blog that ultimately pushed me all the way OUT of Black Nationalist ideology. [And I had previously believed in that ideology since college.]

    Whenever BW commenters mentioned the never-ending list of atrocities being committed against BW and Black girls by BM, these so-called “conscious brothers” would yawn and get right back to whining about WM’ss victimization of BM. The loudest BM voice on that blog was a man who later on married the blogger—they didn’t disclose their connection to each other until after they were married**. Meanwhile, he would challenge other commenters (BW who raised points concerning BW’s interests) to debate on that blog while never disclosing that his personal connection to the blogger. As far as I’m concerned, it’s not particularly ethical or good faith behavior to challenge people to debates in an online setting that (only) you and your blogger girlfriend know is not truly “neutral ground.”

    [**I found out before they disclosed their connection to each other because I stumbled across a photo of them hugged up together in a couples-type of pose at another site.]

    Anyhoo, this “conscious brother” would more or less dismiss any BM-committed atrocity by asserting that ultimately “the WM” was responsible for [feral, violent] Black males’ bad acts due to racism. I finally asked him whether or not he believed in free will.

    The things these so-called “conscious brothers” said on that blog shocked me into the realization that the masses of AA males will NEVER protect and provide for BW and children—AABW are on their own, and need to act accordingly!

    Without them intending to have this effect—

    —the deeply selfish,

    —profoundly irresponsible (marriage & family are the building blocks of any functioning nation. How can you build a nation if you refuse to marry and build families?),

    —DBR-type comments the so-called “conscious brothers” said on the Racial Realist blog snapped me right out of my prior Black Nationalist trance and put me firmly on the road to BWE—LOL!

     
    Check out the BWE pioneers' archives
     
    I strongly urge readers to check out the BWE pioneers' archives, starting with a couple of excellent and still-current posts by Aimee.
     
     

    Sunday, July 13, 2014

    African-American Women: They Hate You BECAUSE You Cape For Them


    I’ve always gotten very bad, woman-hating vibes off the whole male-dominated transsexual and transgender movement. It always registered to me as a bunch of quirky men encroaching on and violating actual women’s spaces. And doing so with a hateful, ultra-sexist, and demented spirit.
    So, I wasn’t really surprised to run across a blog that lists some of the transgender and cross-dressing male predators who use their access to women’s shelters, women’s locker rooms, and women’s bathrooms to sexually assault women and girls. See the post at GenderTrender titled, "Christopher “Jessica” Hambrook, serial rapist, sexually assaulted and terrorized women after being placed in Toronto area Women’s Shelters." 

    I also wasn’t very surprised to learn that most of these so-called transgender “women” choose to keep their penises. I highly recommend Roslyn’s post about all of this titled, "Stop Taking Crazy Pills. They Only Have One Look." UPDATE: The next time somebody comes to you with a sob story about some transgender man, please direct them  to this post by Roslyn, "Connecticut and the Jane Doe Case: Stand Up for His Victims!!!"

    Well, in recent years, I’ve also felt the same very bad, woman-hating vibes coming from the White gay male led-“official” gay movement.

    Since it’s impossible to talk about these matters without listing one’s “I support justice for gays and lesbians” street cred, here are some links to posts where I’ve denounced African-Americans’ mass bigotry against gays and lesbians. HERE. HERE. I also mention this fake-religious based bigotry against gays and lesbians on page 44 of my book.

    I was one of those rare straight African-Americans (especially rare for a Muslim Black Nationalist, which is what I was at that point in time) who spoke out in favor of justice for lesbians and gays long before it became acceptable to do so. I spoke out—and had lots of silly Black folks looking at me cross-eyed—back in the 1980s and early 1990s. During the AIDs plague. So, for those African-American Black women (AABW) who are addicted to caping for gays, lesbians and trans-individuals, please try to refrain from accusing me of anti-gay bigotry.

    It’s been pretty clear to me that these sexual minority movements are NOT about basic justice for gays and lesbians anymore. They haven’t been about basic justice for a long time. I’d say for at least the past 10 or so years. At this point, these sexual minority movements are about grabbing the political power and influence necessary to shove active approval of homosexuality down everybody else’s throat. And since AABW are the only unprotected (and therefore vulnerable) “weak link,” the basic plan is to use AABW as stepping stones for their own advancement. I’ll explain:

    White male-led sexual minority movements have appropriated the image and spirit of the AA civil rights movement for their own purposes. They’re riding our dead civil rights martyrs’ coattails just like the Latinos, Asians, foreign Blacks, and everybody else and their mama.

    In terms of the whole transgender thing, they are appropriating the images of AABW. It’s not a coincidence that the so-called transgender “women” who are being promoted in public are Black MEN like Laverne Cox and Janet Mock. It’s not a coincidence that the main Black female character on a show like Orange Is The New Black that’s allowed to look feminine is a transgender Black MAN. Furthermore, I’ve read that the Buckwheat-looking* BW character called Crazy Eyes on that show literally urinated on the floor like a dog—to mark her territory because she was crushing on the white woman character.

    What you need to understand as an AABW is that a lot of gay men as well as cross-dressing and transgender men HATE women. With a passion. Lemme make it real plain so that even a cave person can understand the dynamics underlying this: What’s the primary obstacle standing between gay men, cross-dressing men, transgender men and the erect heterosexual male penis that many of them crave? Answer: Heterosexual women. Many gay and cross-dressing/transgender men hate straight women because straight men are sexually focused on women, and not on these men.

    But it’s not safe for gay/cross-dressing/transgender men to act on that hatred when it comes to WW and other nonblack/non-AA women. Because nonblack/non-AA women are protected by the straight men of their group. Furthermore, non-AA women don’t have the habit of caping for other people. Guess which category of women that leaves for gay/cross-dressing/transgender men to freely and publicly lash out at? Like THIS video mess. Incidentally, the transgender negro male in this video is ranting in response to THIS article.

    Guess which category of women that leaves for gay/cross-dressing/transgender men to use as scapegoats when the White community votes against their political causes? I discussed the hate crimes committed by White gay men and the scapegoating of AABW in the aftermath of Proposition 8 HERE.

    This is the same pattern that we’ve seen with Latinos, other so-called “people of color,” BM, and so on. Ladies, these other people disrespect, demean and hate you in large part because you cape for them.
    The pattern is consistent: people generally only respect people who DON’T and WON’T cape for them.

    Straight AABW, stop caping for gays, lesbians and cross-dressing/transgender men. Stop caping in general. Just stop caping.

    *Addendum about modern dating* If you plan on keeping AA males in your dating pool as an AABW (particularly those who live in Atlanta), I would strongly urge you to watch the following two videos by an out gay BM. I can see why many other gay BM are angry with this man, because he's telling a lot of truth in these videos and he's not sugarcoating anything.

    He's essentially warning women about how to avoid involvement with a down-low gay BM. In the first video, he suggests that women get gay male hook-up website apps for their smart phones so they can see if any of the men around them are on those sites looking for a hook-up. In the second video, he warns about the numbers of down-low BM who are in Black fraternities. And who use their fraternity membership as a cover story while meeting other men for sex.


     
    [*Notes in the margin about these minstrel show images: Here’s a comment I made about that in response to THIS excellent post:

    It almost goes without saying that I will boycott every Black individual connected to this TV show. They will never get any form of support from me. Ever.

    Another aspect to all of this that I find troubling is how apparently most AAs are unaware of our history in Hollyweird. It seems to me the only way any AA could—in good faith—be sincerely confused about these images is if they aren’t familiar with these degrading tropes for Black performers. These degrading, racist tropes and “norms” for Black performers are not new. Not at all. In fact, they’re 150+ years old in the U.S. (These racist minstrel show tropes pre-date the U.S. Civil War. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minstrel_show)

    I would strongly urge progressive BW to look into the history of Black performers and get familiar with this very old mess that keeps getting trotted out. Here’s a good site to start with. http://black-face.com/blackface-actors.htm

    I saw the top poster of this “Crazy Eyes” creature, and immediately recognized it as yet another incarnation of Mantan Moreland and that big-eyed “Buckwheat” expression from Little Rascals. I know my history. Ladies, do you know yours? When you know your history, you’re not confused when presented with this type of mess.

    This SAME bug-eyed, “crazy eyes” look STAYS on frequent rotation for Black performers.

    The same way that “Aunt Jemima” look STAYS on frequent rotation for Black actresses.

    Because certain folks in the entertainment industry reward Black performers for portraying minstrel show-style images. Any BW who is okay with those of her great-great-great grandbabies who are Black being presented with the SAME minstrel show-images as “entertainment” should keep watching and supporting this mess. One would think that after 150+ years of this mess, 99.999% of AAs (including AA performers) would’ve had enough of it. I guess not.

    The only point of (mild) curiosity in this for me is about the Nigerian-heritage actress that portrays this Crazy Eyes creature. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uzo_Aduba

    I just find it fascinating that—without being part of this American minstrel-show history—she apparently knew precisely what kind of minstrel-show-type, “crazy eyes” look would be rewarded by whoever (presumably nonblack) is running that show.]

    Friday, July 4, 2014

    I’ve Changed My Mind About Two Major Issues


    After watching the fallout regarding the recent Curly Nikki mess, I’ve changed my mind about two major issues that affect African-American Black women’s (AABW) interests. First, I’ve changed my mind about remaining silent about the growing pattern of younger AABW bloggers backing away from the term “Black.” Let me emphasize that I don't think younger AABW bloggers are doing this as a conscious, fully thought-out, or deliberate choice. I have the impression that it's something they gravitated to without really thinking about it.
    Second, I’ve changed my mind and concluded that the vast majority of AABW can’t afford any attempts at nuance when considering biracial issues. For the sake of younger AABW’s mental health, ALL biracials (whether they’re individually loyal to AA Blacks or not) must be removed from our “African-American Black” category and placed in a totally separate category.

    I believe these are intertwined and interlocking issues.

    Younger AABW’s Curious Choice to Give Their Online Spaces and Conferences Titles Like Breaking Brown, Blogging While Brown, Brown Sistagirls, Etc. Instead of Breaking Black, Blogging While Black, Black Sistagirls, etc.
    Please note that I’m not singling out any particular blogger or writer. There are a lot of AABW using “Brown” instead of “Black” when giving a title to their online presence. I’m mentioning these titles as examples of what I’m talking about.

    The labels we choose when describing ourselves say a lot about our levels of consciousness and level of comfort in our own skin. AAs have historically had a tortuous relationship to identity. Our kidnapped ancestors started off self-identifying as members of whatever African ethnic group they were members of. That African tribal identity was deliberately destroyed via mass torture and rape. Despite a few holdouts, such as the founders of the African Methodist Episcopal Church (which was founded in 1816), our ancestors abandoned the label “African.”

    Instead, most of our ancestors began to self-describe as “Negroes” or “colored.” Until the mid- to late 1960s, to be called “Black” was a slur among most African-Americans. With the exception of the Nation of Islam who referred to AAs as “Asiatic Black men and women.” Unfortunately, hypocrisy tainted their efforts at claiming the label “Black” and reclaiming racial self-respect, which I’ll discuss later in this post. Most of our efforts as reclaiming ethnic and racial self-respect and pride are tainted with hypocrisy. It’s a human frailty, but there are some other poisonous ingredients.


    When I was a small girl during the 1970s, AAs used the terms “Afro-American” and “Black” interchangeably to describe ourselves. A couple of decades later, AAs started using the terms “African-American” and “Black” interchangeably.
    It literally took CENTURIES for us to get the word “African” back into our mental self-description.


    Likewise, it literally took CENTURIES for us to get comfortable with self-describing as “Black.”
    Also keep in mind that whatever terms we used to self-describe our racial and ethnic group were used by both AA men and women. There was unity and a perceived shared interest in those labels.

    Something has changed over the past decade or so. I’ve noticed that younger AABW are running away from the label “Black” and instead using the term “Brown” in giving titles to their online presences. Up until now, the label “Brown” was claimed by Latinos in the U.S.


    Latinos are now self-identifying as “White” (and for a variety of political and demographic reasons, American White folks are cooperating with Latinos describing themselves as such). AABW are calling themselves “Brown” online. AABM are still calling themselves and their online spaces “Black.” Do you see the change with this? Do you see the divergence between AABW and AABM in this matter?
    It looks like this is  largely a generational thing. Younger AABW who’ve grown up during the hip-hop and c/rap era had their self-images formed by the 30 Year War On BW. When you stop to think about it, it’s no wonder young AA Black women are running away from calling themselves “Black” to using the term “Brown.”
     
    For the past three decades, AABM in hip-hop and c/rap have been actively degrading Black womanhood in favor of lighter and Whiter women. This rabidly anti-BW poison has permeated throughout modern AA culture. All these younger women know (and have internalized) is an atmosphere of downright rabid gendered racism. All they know is Black women being openly devalued and degraded by the toxic modern AA culture created by hip-hop and c/rap’s warped values. By contrast, younger AA Black males don’t feel mental pressure to run away from self-describing as “Black men” because their identity as Black males has not been under heavy attack from the AA collective.

    AABW in my age group are relatively blessed. We were already teenagers when that hip-hop and c/rap mess started up. By the time hip-hop c/rap emerged, our self-image had already been formed by other, mostly healthier cultural influences. Unlike younger generations of AAs, we also grew up listening to our parents’ records. And listening to our parents’ older siblings’ records. So we were familiar not just with the Black music of our era. We were also familiar with the Black music our parents and their older siblings had listened to when they were teenagers.

    My teenage friends (male and female) and I hated hip-hop c/rap; and saw it for the talent-free, self-degrading garbage that it was from the very beginning.

    We were also repulsed by hip-hop and c/rap on an aesthetic level. We liked music that involves acoustic instruments and musicians who can either actually sing or play instruments. We liked coming from a people who (prior to the hip-hop c/rap age) could harmonize and sing a cappella at the drop of a hat. We were not at all impressed by the influx of no-singing, no-instrument-playing "musicians" yelling and cursing over recordings of other people's melodies and beats.

    Since, unlike modern AAs, we were familiar with our parents’ generation of Black music, we automatically recognized the stolen melodies, refrains, and beats the c/rappers were yelling over. And we knew the original versions of these stolen songs were qualitatively so much better than the ripped-off, c/rap version.

    As a teenager who played the piano and flute and appreciated the craftsmanship that goes into composing music, I was particularly disgusted by all the “biting” involved in hip-hop c/rap. When you don’t have any talent, you have to bite off real musicians’ work.

    But we ultimately allowed ourselves to be silenced by other AAs who accused those AAs who disliked hip-hop c/rap of being “bougie.”

    Prior to the Curly Nikki debacle, I had decided not to say anything publicly about how so many AABW were running away from calling their online endeavors “Black” to using the term “Brown.” I didn’t want to say anything potentially divisive unless it was truly necessary. The Curly Nikki episode showed me that it’s necessary to say something about this.

    I wasn’t so much shocked by what Curly Nikki did. I had mistakenly assumed that she had built up her own brand. I didn’t know that she had been a Trojan horse for a White-owned media entity from the very beginning. The pattern of White-controlled entities using Black faces to lure Black consumers is not new. I discussed this pattern in terms of upstart cable TV stations during THIS post:


    Sojourners know that the traditional opening strategy for many upstart, minimal-quality cable TV networks is to pimp the AA consumer zombies. These networks use cheap, low-quality Black-oriented programming to build an initial audience of faithful AA consumer zombies.
    After establishing a stable base audience of AA consumer zombie-viewers, the cable network uses the financial base created by AA slave viewers to develop more expensive programming designed to appeal to their true target audience: White viewers.
    Once the new network develops a stable of programs favored by a sizeable audience of White viewers, the network then discards the AA consumer zombies and the Black-oriented shows used to attract AA consumer zombies. The network throws the slaves away like yesterday's trash. Two good examples of this strategy are the WB Television Network and UPN.



    I wasn’t shocked at Curly Nikki. I was shocked to see so many AABW caping—hard—in support of that WW’s choice to insert herself into AABW’s “natural hair” issues. I couldn’t believe what I was reading from these Cape-Wearing AABW.
    Not only are many of these younger AABW numb (as veteran Common Sense blogger Evia has noted), but they also have NO affirming sense of self. When you don’t have any affirming sense of self, it’s impossible to have boundaries with other people. When you don’t have any affirming sense of self, you try to latch onto somebody else’s identity. By hook or crook. It’s all interrelated.


    I never liked or wanted to do anything to encourage the AABW Natural Hair Jihadis because I always knew there was a rotten core of hypocrisy underlying their non-stop screeching about how their natural hair styles reflected elevated, self-affirming consciousness levels. First of all, these women use a hair typing system that puts straight WW’s and Asian women type of hair at #1. While the more typical hair textures and curl patterns found among BW are at #4. What’s up with that? Yet again, we’re buying into something that positions somebody else as first and #1.
    While these hypocritical natural hair fanatics were berating other BW for wearing processed or straightened styles, they were doing the same thing. The only difference is that the natural hair fanatical hypocrites called their relaxer type products “pudding,” etc.  

    This type of hypocrisy among the most strident “Blacker Than Thou” types is an old pattern. We saw it with all the 1960s-era Black-talking BM activists who chased and married WW. The Nation of Islam also has this problem. While they (correctly, in my view) criticized AA Christians for worshipping the image of an Aryan Jesus, here’s some photos of “Master” Fard Muhammad. The old NOI taught that “God came in the person of Master Fard Muhammad.”
     
     
    The idea of rejecting the historically inaccurate, Aryan images of God that the slavemaster taught our ancestors to worship is a good one. The idea of rejecting the servile identities the slavemaster forced upon our ancestors is a good one. The problem has always been with the execution of these good ideas. The same applies to the modern day Natural Hair Jihadis. The underlying idea of affirming your own natural beauty and your own natural hair texture is a good one. As always, the problem is with the execution.
    The problems with the execution crop up because AAs have a tendency to import the same old, self-hating thinking into any new and good idea. So, instead of teaching AAs to rally around “Black,” the old NOI was latching onto somebody else’s identity by saying “Asiatic Blacks.” Instead of celebrating our own natural hair textures, many of the modern day Natural Hair Jihadis and followers have been latching onto (and using zillions of products in an attempt to achieve) somebody else’s hair textures—hair textures and curl patterns that are typically only natural for mixed-race women.
    Let’s be clear: I wore my hair in a natural and braids during the height of the 1980s Jheri curl era. I wore my hair in these natural styles without using any so-called curl activator-type products. My natural naps were on display in all their unaltered glory. These modern day Natural Hair Jihadis aren’t doing anything new. And they’re doing these natural styles at a point in time when these styles are in fashion. It does not require courage to wear natural hair styles nowadays. In other words, most of the current day Natural Hair Jihadis are following a fad and are NOT on any sincere “hair journey” toward acceptance of their natural hair textures.
    Which brings me to why we must—without any nuance—remove Black biracials from our AA Black category. I still have the concerns I raised in THIS post. But after I saw the multitudes of AABW who were caping hard in support of White and other women inserting themselves into AABW’s natural hair issues and spaces, I reconsidered my views.
    Because I grew up under different circumstances, I’m not numb like so many younger AABW. I can tell the difference between a pimp slap and a caress. I can see and maintain boundaries between myself and others. I can maintain my own positive sense of self while dealing in nuances. Most AABW can’t. Especially not most younger AABW. This ties into the replacement and erasure of BW that I discussed HERE. It’s all related. And I now see that it’s also generational to a large degree. I agree with the comments that Evia made in the comment section to THIS excellent post.

    As you may know, I’m an “old school” AA woman from a certain place and time, so it’s always been easy for me to connect all the dots. But the question that has stymied me since the time I started blogging is WHY is it that so many younger AAbw and similar bw of all income classes and educational levels CAN BE COUNTED ON to act suicidal in so many situations as if it’s a reflex. As y’all point out, even when they’ve been told over and over the smarter or reasonable way to flip the script, they still CHOOSE to make suicidal moves. Even when they’re taking their last gasp, they still make suicidal moves!


    So, my approach to this mystery is the same one that scientists use in studying lower life forms to determine why water animals, might for ex., crawl out of the water–to die on land-deliberately. I’m NOT trying to offend anyone but I think that it’s time to “study” these very detrimental choices that SO MANY AA women make and dig out–no matter the underbelly of it–what’s really going on. I call it a death wish. I notice, too, that the bw who do these things rarely ever speak up and say exactly WHY they’re doing them–and some of them do know why. “Low self-esteem” has been worn out!


    So, in the last year, I’ve been trying to drill down deep to find out what’s at the bottom of this “death wish.” We’ve got to be brutally frank about this because AA women don’t have much more time. We’re seeing this more clearly now.


    I’m convinced that ONE reason they do it is because negative attention (slave movies, reality shows, etc.) is better to them–than no attention at all. And I believe that some darker bw live life vicariously through their lighter friends or lighter other women. That, to them, is better than nothing. AAs have NEVER dealt ruthlessly with the massive colorism that sits in the heart of the typical AA man, and it IS AA men who are the chief makers and distributors of this poison. so it will continue to kill the spirits of many black females since they WILL be rejected in favor of lighter-whiter women.


    . . . One of the key reasons I’ve been able to pinpoint for some of this suicidal behavior is that the bulk of AA women feel VERY alone and apart from other WOMEN, as well as men. That’s the #1 reason they’ve stated to me for why they continue with the BAU (business as usual). They feel unsupported and virtually hopeless that things will change.They don’t feel they have anyone at their back and I think this is because they really don’t have anyone at their back. And this has occurred for a number of reasons but we can see some of this online, where bw (who need each other the absolute most will attack and tear each other to pieces psychologically, if they can.) This is because “hurt people hurt people.”


    . . . @neurochick, Yep, I know–from interacting with various younger AAbw, that something profound occurred to large segments of them that caused many of them to become numb, and to completely doubt their value.

    This replacing of Nina Simone by Zoe Saldana and the whole replacement thing could NOT have occurred in the 70s and 80s. Nina, herself, would have ripped her clothes off in Times Square, if necessary, to bring worldwide attention to her being replaced. LOL! Let’s face it-there were more than enough clueless bw back then, BUT there would have been way more than enough LOUD, unceasing protests from enough of us. A great WRONG is occurring with this replacement campaign, but judging by the overall silence, the bulk of AAbw can’t “feel” that wrong occurring. Like I said, they seem to be numb. Not only do I “know” it’s wrong, but I also FEEL it.

    Insofar as going to see any of these movies where AAbw aren’t being lifted up–and spending money on them, the fact is that spending money on anything sends a clear message of APPROVAL and/or that we just don’t care. That’s the message that is being received. And if we don’t care or do approve, then we should never be surprised or not even bat an eyelash when that thing comes back to bite us in the butt. We can’t have it both ways. If there were ample roles for AA women–roles that we could be proud of–I wouldn’t have a problem with supporting selected one of these movies, but there aren’t. And self-preservation is the FIRST law.

    I don’t claim to have all the answers. I don’t understand the mindset that makes it possible for so many AABW to cape in support of WW and others intruding into AABW’s natural hair spaces. I just don’t get that at all.
    But I do know that AAs are in freefall and moving backwards in terms of self-respect, self-acceptance, and self-love. I do know that AABW rejecting “Black” in favor of “Brown” is not going to help AABW in either the short term or the long run. I believe it would be better actively work on affirming one’s actual self. The first step is to disconnect from the poisonous, anti-BW media that so many of us continue to lap up.
    I suppose many women would justify this self-description by saying that they're simply noting their actual skin color. My response would be to note that “Black” (like “White” for persons of European descent and “Brown” for Latinos) has been a short-hand, political racial self-description. The point was not to delineate everybody’s actual skin color. Few European-descent Whites are actually White, many of them have alabaster skin tones with varying degrees of pink undertones.

    The other thing about AABW formally self-describing as “Brown” based on actual color is that it opens the door to yet more fragmentation. Because if I picked a self-descriptor based on my actual color, I’d end up calling myself “Beige.” Once we open those floodgates, it’s guaranteed that lots of other formerly “Black” AA women will be calling themselves beige, tan, manila folder and anything else that’s not Black. Foreign-origin Blacks will increase their efforts to avoid the “Black” label by self-describing based on their African, Latino or West Indian ethnicity only. There are nuances to all of that that I discussed HERE.  

    AABM have already retrogressed by staging 30+ years of 1800’s-style quadroon balls in their music videos and movies. Do we as AABW really want to join AABM by working our way back . . . step by step . . . (from Black to Brown to whatever the next lighter descriptor will be) toward self-describing as “colored”?