Saturday, April 18, 2015

This is NOT Legal Advice

I’m an attorney, but nothing I write here or anywhere else online is legal advice. You obtain legal advice by hiring a lawyer. I repeat: The following is NOT legal advice.

A former blog reader brought THIS post to my attention, and I was alarmed by what I read. I’m not one of Christelyn Karazin’s fans. But I don’t have to be one of her fans to care about the safety and well-being of African-American (AA) Black girls in general, including her oldest daughter.

I’m NOT giving legal advice, or any other type of advice in this post. I’m simply mentioning some things that I would do in such a circumstance. I’ll save the scolding and warning for new school AA women until the end of this post. I would:

Document everything this “Internet Ike Turner” has posted online that pertains oneself and one’s family. That means:

·         Taking screenshots, screen captures.

·         Using a media converter to record, I would convert and download any relevant videos this creep has posted online (YouTube, etc.).

·         Printing out any and all menacing emails this creep has sent.

·         And so on in order to gather every bit of evidence possible.
I would do this quickly. Before the creep realizes he might have created legal exposure for himself, and starts deleting these materials.
With the above evidence in hand, I would contact ALL law enforcement authorities in my area. Including the local FBI field office, the county sheriff’s office,  the state police, the local city or suburban police department, the local district attorney’s office, the local city attorney’s office.
It’s nice when blog readers respond to appeals for them to “flag” offensive content, but when you really want this type of problem solved—permanently—it’s often best to go to law enforcement and bring the full force and power of the government crashing down on the online stalkers’ heads.
I would start with law enforcement, because if there’s sufficient evidence of criminal activity, the authorities can and will crack down without a victim having to invest money into seeking justice.
If the authorities feel there’s not enough for them to act upon, my next step would be to see an attorney about any private legal remedies that might be available. The problem is that this means having to spend money to get relief from some creep’s inappropriate behavior.
*Scolding for AA Black Women Who Overshare Online*
This type of harassment is exactly why it’s extremely unwise to overshare personal information online. Y’all don’t seem to comprehend that you’re letting an entire PLANET of unknown freaks into your personal business when you overshare online.
You don’t know anything about the numbers of deranged freaks who lurk on your blogs and listen in to your online conversations. But these freaks know a lot about YOU. Meanwhile, far too many of you young’uns (and older women who should know better) act as if your public online conversations are somehow private.
This [poorly dubbed but still effective in getting the point across] German public service announcement tells the tale about how some of you are letting the world rush into your home through your computer:
I know that my reactions are colored by prior work experience in the legal system. I know that pedophiles (including some of the ones I represented in the past) use those online photos and videos so many of y’all post of your children as shopping catalogs, “wish lists,” and masturbation prompts. Many pedophiles do the same thing with school class photos of underage children.

If you don’t like the idea of your child’s image being used in such a manner, then STOP flossing photos of your kids!

Some of y’all are so caught up in looking for attention, praise, and validation from other readers online that you never stop to consider the dangers involved in giving out so much personal information. Major celebrities have security. You don’t. Your children don’t.

I’m sure many of you have never heard of Asia McGowan (who was murdered by a DBRBM who was spewing hatred toward BW on YouTube. He was spewing hatred in response to her innocuous YouTube videos), but I remember her. See the What About Our Daughters post “YouTube Facebook Murder: Black Woman Slaughtered by CrazedFellow YouTuber and Facebook Stalker-Detroit Police Ignored Warnings byYouTubers” 

I also remember the actress Rebecca Schaeffer, who was murdered by a deranged stalker in 1989. I’ve been security-conscious since the very beginning of my BWE online activism. I have consistently urged other BW online to get serious about safety considerations, including in the context of being a BW blogger. TableTalk For Activists, Part 7: An Open Letter To Black Women Bloggers, You Tubers,And Event Organizers 

I’m not telling you this to scare you. I’m telling you this so you can start making some sensible, well-considered choices about the type and amount of personal information you share online.

Over the years I’ve been horrified to watch how easy so many of y’all make it for a stalker to find you. AND to find your children. In giving out so much personal information, you’re giving deranged individuals options they shouldn’t have. They shouldn’t have the option of deciding whether or not to “reach out and touch you” (or your children) in person.

The easiest way to block freaks from having these kind of options is to deny them access to personal information about yourself and your children. You don't even have to affirmatively do anything. Simply refrain from excess blabbing online; and refrain from posting photos of your kids online. [If you’re willing to take action, you can tell friends and family that you don’t want them posting photos of your children online.]

To those for whom “the shoe fits, I strongly urge you to stop leaving trails of online “breadcrumbs” leading freaks to your homes and your personal lives.

Breukelen Bleu’s (BW Think Tank) recent Facebook post and comment about all of this says it ALL about the permanent nature of conquered BM's hatred for BW. I’m republishing her comment below:

Breukelen Bleu Thats why I did it that way too. Some folk know who I really am and thats fine. But I stopped using my real name and pics cuz these fools out here are a mess and honestly, you cant rely on the black woman collective to have your back. As much as we complain about bm not standing up for us, we dont stand up for each other, either. You put yourself out here tryna help your sistren and when it brings foolishness back to you, you might just find yourself assed out.

Im so glad that Christelyn Russell-Karazin told them niggas to FUCK OFF. SWP has tried to come for me a few times, but we know mutual folk and I sent word that he might not wanna go that route.

I am SO glad that she panned the BEAUTIFUL backdrop of her surroundings at the end of the vid cuz she is right- the problem that these bum negros have is the idea that a DARK SKINNED BLACK AMERICAN WOMAN (not mixed race, not black hispanic, not black foreign or even African), is living well and a white man is helping her do it. The issue that is never really addressed with this so-called 'gender war' within the bc, is that at its core the anger that black males have with us is not about our hair, our attitudes or our looks. Its about their ultimate, visceral and primal HATRED of the Source of their Creation, and their desire to see us be wretched, unloved, uncared for, unprotected...and enslaved to them and their needs. This goes way beyond the emotional - its a PSYCHOLOGICAL pathology that stems from their own anger at being black MEN in a white mans world, with no power and no pride. All the rants and raves are just an excuse. The vitriol speaks to something much greater than black womens supposed affinity to feminism and our love for 'hair hats'. Its comes to a desire to see us HURT, in PAIN and WITHOUT HELP. Every harsh word, mean thought, evil act or abandonment of us and our children, is little more than hatred for themselves. They hate us because we create them and they hate themselves because they have been defeated - and are STILL being defeated. So to see us being validated, vindicated, and living a wonderful live, edified by the very men who they feel have denied them THEIR due, hits them in a primal place that they cant even put words too. Its like a person who was abused as a baby, and cant remember the abuse but acts out because of it. They dont even KNOW why they hate us so much- it cant be reasoned. All the excuses are just covers for something they cant quite name, but feel, desperately. So the ultimate goal is not to dismantle the system that conquered them or the win within the system that oppresses them -

But to destroy THEIR OWN IMAGE by destroying the womb that produced it. Living in patriarchy provides the frame work to hide their particular form of hatred for us. Under the guise of the accepted ideas of Man > woman > child, they are able to push forward their unique agenda of our destruction, which is not simply just the 'folly of male domination' but a fixed and lazer view desire to see BLACK women fail. Its even WORSE than what non-black males have done to us, because we dont BIRTH non-black males. We birth BLACK men and when your OWN Creation turn on you, its about much more than politics or economics. This shit is down to the bone - to the SPIRITUAL level and no amount of 'black love' gone fix it. Unless and until the black male begins to find love for HIMSELF and his own PERSONHOOD, despite his MANHOOD having been compromised within this system, he will continue to work on both the personal and collective level to DESTROY the image of his Mother.


And those who dont actively work to do so, will do so by omittance. They will stand back and allow the more vocal, dangerous and deadly of them, to destroy black women, the black community, and ultimately, themselves. They can talk about the white man all they want. The truth is, their greatest hatred is not of "whitey" - but of the black woman who didnt create them as white men. Its like a child born with AIDs hating their parents for infecting them with AIDS. You hate that you never stood a chance of experiencing live WITHOUT AIDS because your MOTHER gave it to you - its a part of your genetic code. And all the suffereing and stigma you endure because of it, ultimately, goes back to her. For black men, BLACKNESS is a defect. And they hate black women - their black MOTHERS - for infecting them with it. THAT is the thing that is rarely discussed. And until THAT is dealt with, NOTHING will save this race.


So a woman like Christelyn Russell-Karazin, with her beautiful children (including a absolutely GORGEOUS dark skinned daughter who clearly got her beauty from her MOTHER), her wonderful husband, her successful career as a blogger and leader in the BW Swirl Movement, not having to slave away at a stressful 9-5 and not having to model STRUGGLE as the vanguard of what it means to be black and female...

THAT is the ULTIMATE betrayal to them. How DARE we black women thrive in the system that keeps bm losing? How DARE we not simply wither and die on the vine while they mentally, emotionally, economically, romantically and genetically abandon us in our communities? How DARE we live the good life, with beautiful settings in good zip codes where our children wont have to go through metal detectors and get sniffed by police dogs just get into school? How DARE we decide that we will find the love, honor, respect and ELEVATION that they have denied us - elsewhere? THIS is the ultimate sin for a black woman, because it lets bm know that we will not agree to this arrangement of one sided loyalty and hatred from the very sons WE birth - and we will not agree that we are unworthy, unlovable and unappealing. We will not CONFIRm their hatred of us, by hating ourselves. THAT is what bothers them most about black women like Christelyn.

So guess what? In the end, THE BEST REVENGE IS SUCCESS (and maybe throwing some bad mojo their way, but thats another discussion. LOL) and when black women WIN! it totally undoes their ability to destroy us;

Our image. Our bodies. Our minds. Our babies. Our souls.

There is a scene in the movie, Sankofa, where a man who was the product of rape of black slave woman by a white man, so full of self hatred because of his lot in life as a mixed race slave who DESPERATELY wanted the freedom, power and position of the white man, KILLS his own mother in a fit of rage and psychological breakdown. He HATED her for creating HIS suffering, by the meer fact that she BIRTHED him.

THIS is what i believe is actually fueling this 'gender war' in the black community. And because of it, no matter HOW much black women lean in and try to be there for black men, we will NEVER be redeemed by them. Only the act of turning away MIGHT stimulate them to realize what they are losing. They are afflicted with a mass MENTAL ILLNESS. You cannot 'love' a mental pathology away. And you cannot 'love' a psychotic who is running at you with a knife. You must remove yourself from them to save yourself. And after you do so, life doesnt end. You move on and strive to THRIVE because you are WORTHY, even if they arent.

I am SO glad she SHOWED her success ON CAMERA. Because i can GUARANTEE you, NONE of the fools who support SWP lives look ANYTHING remotely close to what her day to day life looks like. If it did, they wouldnt have time to sit and create thousands of videos coming for us. They'd be too busy living and loving their fabulous lives, with their devoted wives, adoring children and beautiful legacy.

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Beware of Advice From Outsiders Who Want You to Do As They SAY, and NOT as They DID For Themselves, Part 2

I'm so proud of many of the African-American (AA) women who have learned to apply the core values of Black Women's Empowerment, such as (1) screening ("vetting") people, places, ideas and things to see if they bring worthwhile benefits to one's life. And (2) [on-par] reciprocity, a large part of which involves having and setting boundaries with other people.

It warmed my heart to see the pushback to a certain type of commentary during a recent post at the For Black Women Only Facebook page. Here are the relevant screen captures below:

THANK YOU, Barby Jayne! And I liked the smooth way you called out this mess without having to go into the underlying ethnic issues involved.
For confused AA women, Imma say out loud some of the things you refrained some saying in that exchange.
#1 - Think about your OWN circumstances and context when examining ideas. 
Lifestyle optimization requires you to examine ideas from the vantage point of your own particular context and circumstances. This one statement will probably be a recurring theme in the blog posts here. It’s impossible to have an optimal lifestyle when you make critical life decisions based on other people’s circumstances. Listening to other people whose circumstances or interests are out of alignment with yours will throw your life into chaos and ruin. 
This is the primary reason so many African-American women are living in misery and hardship. They’re programmed to think about other people’s (read: Black men’s, and the already-dead Black community’s) circumstances and interests, instead of their own. Or they’re taking positions that only make sense in the context of nonblack women’s collective life circumstances.
The same concerns apply regarding the advice and commentary that foreign Blacks give to AAs. I say again: The advice that foreign Blacks give AAs often does NOT apply to (or work well within) our particular circumstances.
Sometimes unhelpful advice is due to good-faith accident because some foreign Blacks don't understand the dangers inherent in the cross-cultural "preaching" and advice they sometimes give to AAs. It's extremely dangerous for any doctor to prescribe medication for a patient when they don't know that patient's history.
Sometimes that unhelpful advice or commentary is due to deliberate sabotage. Which brings me to my next point.
#2 - Beware of advice from outsiders who want you to do as they SAY, and NOT as they DID for themselves!
For all their warnings to discourage AA women from going to Europe, I somehow doubt these non-AA "I truly believe the interaccial dating aspect has many blinded by some harsh truths" BW have left Europe to go back to their countries of origin/ancestral homelands.
"Do as I say, NOT as I did for myself" is almost always an okey-doke.
Unfortunately, falling for this "Do as I say, not as I did for myself and my 'tribe'" okey-doke is an old problem among AAs. As I mentioned in a post 6 years ago, that's how many Jews "did" AAs:
Unfortunately, this isn't the first time that outsiders have deliberately given African-Americans advice that they didn't follow for themselves. Many Jewish-Americans did the same thing throughout the 1960s. Jewish-Americans did not solve their problems with anti-Semitism by having protest marches. They solved their problems through education, and building Jewish businesses that could offer employment to Jewish people. However, whenever African-Americans attempt the same strategies, Jews (and other White Americans) have been quick to tell us that this is "separatism" and something that we shouldn't do.

The true test of what people really think is a good strategy is what they do for THEMSELVES. If somebody is telling you that you must do something other than what they did for themselves, watch out! And examine this person's motives. They probably don't wish you well.
In that post, I blasted a foreign-origin BW blogger who had been making extremely strident comments shrieking that AA women should not--and must not--divest from AA Black residential areas or from non-reciprocating entities such as most AA organizations, Black men who are not protecting and providing for Black women and children, etc.
This woman insisted that AA women must "stay and fight" to improve conditions in the [already dead] Black community. That blogger didn't "stay and fight" to improve conditions in her Black country. Her immediate family didn't "stay and fight" to improve conditions in their Black country. THEY LEFT. And apparently had no intention of ever going back to their Black country. Which is perfectly fine with me. Just don't try to block AA women from seeking out what's best for our own interests.
As I recall, while telling AA women we must "stay and fight" in what is now called Blackistan, that particular blogger was living in Seattle. Which is not exactly a hotbed of deadly violent crime, struggle or strife.
#3 - Feedback about AA women moving to Europe FROM an AA woman who has lived in Europe for 10+ years with her European husband.
In relation to the topic at hand, I've traveled quite a bit in Western Europe and I have an AA friend who has lived in a Western European country for over 10 years with her European husband. We've talked about this issue over the years, and here's what she had to say specifically in response to the discussion at the For BW Only Facebook page:
"More often than not, if one has mastered the language, respect the local culture, carry oneself well (dress, attitude, etc) and looks like someone that is not leeching* off the system" then one should do well in Western Europe as an AABW.
*That "leeching" bit is in reference to an unfortunate situation my friend has read about at one BW expat's blog (which I mentioned during a conversation at another blog): 
I’m not going to call the woman’s name (or name the country), but there has been a BW blogger who (as I recall, I haven’t read her blog in quite some time): 
(1) went to Western Europe,  
(2) didn’t bother to even try to learn the language (even a few phrases go a long way—with folks who aren’t French (LOL!)—non-French people appreciate a guest making the effort to try to learn their language (the French are prickly about their language and culture, but on the other hand they have a lot of good stuff to be proud of),  
(3) didn’t bother to try to learn the cultural expectations, which led to her having debates with minor government officials (a major NO-NO as a guest), 
(4) ultimately had a “swirl” bastard baby over there, and of course signed up for the FOR-NOW generous government benefits, 
(5) from what one could see in the photos she posted, routinely dressed in a revealing (and inappropriate—it’s best to dress conservatively when in somebody ELSE’s country) manner—- 
—-and then wondered aloud in multiple blog posts Why, Lawd, why?” wasn’t she being treated with respect by the typical random “native” over there. As if it was a mystery. Maybe she was mystified, but I wasn’t as I lurked and read her blog. 
Ladies, Please—for the love of God, DON’T do what this chick did (as I described above). Don’t ruin what might be a needed safe haven for sensible AA in the future!
Right now, AA women visitors are generally perceived as “exotic” and “nice” in these places. Don’t ruin it and give us a trashy image by engaging in the foolish behaviors this woman engaged in.
[I will note for the record that this woman is apparently of West Indian heritage. I don't want her foolishness attributed to AA women. We already have more than enough concerns of our own.]
Anyhoo, it's been my experience as a repeated visitor---and the experience of AA women I've talked to who live in Western Europe*---that AA Blacks are perceived differently and more positively than African and West Indian former colonial subjects in these countries. It's often easier for Whites to be friendly toward "total outsider" Black ethnic groups who don't share any negative history (slavery and/or colonialism) with them.
Outsider Black folks often get to be favorably "exotic." In the US, Africans and West Indians often get to be perceived by White Americans as preferable to native AA Blacks. And in Western Europe, AA Blacks often get to be perceived by Western Europeans as preferable to their various African and West Indian Black former colonial subjects. [*I emphasize Western Europe because from everything I've read and heard of Eastern Europe from AAs who have gone there, it's not a good environment for AA women looking to relocate.]
My sisters, you need to travel and see Western Europe for yourself. And work this "exotic Black outsider" advantage (and the advantage of American privilege) as much as you can while you're there. And STOP taking our foreign Black cousins' advice and commentary at face value!

Friday, April 10, 2015

Monday, March 23, 2015

Friends With Benefits (FWB) = Pump & Dump

Forty-plus years of mass fatherlessness (created by mass out-of-wedlock childbearing) has created mass mental illness, derangement and depravity among modern-day African-Americans (AAs). This mass mental illness is manifested by legions of new-school AAs being totally out of touch with human norms.

I applaud the patience Mrs. Dee Dee Russell-Lefrak demonstrates in the comments to THIS Facebook post, because I can’t be bothered talking to Suffering Yet Hard-headed AA Women anymore. These days, I simply step over and around such women.
Part of what has gone horribly wrong among the masses of modern day (mostly fatherless) AAs is that they give pleasing names to ugly circumstances. Such as this “Friends With Benefits” terminology. All of which really boils down to a woman allowing herself to be Pumped & Dumped.

{rhetorical question} What [non-prostitute] woman in her right mind SIGNS UP to be pumped and dumped??!!??

Some of the silly pro-FWB talk in the comments to Dee Dee's post would be comical if the consequences and generations of AA suffering caused by this mess weren’t so severe and extreme.
I mean, really now . . . males are never confused about THEIR interests. The typical straight male is looking to have free sex without any commitment, accountability or responsibility. For as long as possible, and with as many different women as possible. In other words, the typical male is looking to pump and dump for as long as possible—unless and until he runs across a woman that he desires enough to want to take her off the market by marrying her.
What I notice is that throughout each historical era since the 1960s, men never repudiate their basic “pump and dump” urges. Instead, it’s silly women who are buying into a series of slogans that make it convenient for men to pump and dump them. Slogans like “free love,” “sex-positive,” and “friends with benefits.”
Silly, gullible women—and their fatherless, out-of-wedlock children—pay the price for buying into these pro-pump & dump slogans. Most AA social problems stem from AA women allowing themselves to be freely pumped & dumped instead of having basic standards for engaging in physical intimacy.

Let’s just call situations what they are:

baby mama = pumped & dumped woman who had an out-of-wedlock (oow)(typically fatherless) child

food stamps = charity food assistance for mostly pumped & dumped women and their oow (typically fatherless) spawn

Section 8 = charity hell-hole housing filled with pumped & dumped women and their oow (typically fatherless) spawn

food insecurity = a frequent feature of the pumped & dumped lifestyle

poverty = a feature of the pumped & dumped lifestyle

violent, feral BM = the fatherless, oow spawn of pumped & dumped BW

“programs” = financial, mentoring and assorted other charity support intended to compensate for the missing husband and father that is built into the pumped & dumped lifestyle

“Chiraq,””Kill-a-delphia,””Blackistan,” etc.  = dangerous, violent slums filled with pumped & dumped BW and their fatherless, oow spawn

Anyhoo, if you’re smart, you’ll listen to what Dee Dee is telling you about this Friends With Benefits mess.

She’s telling some of y’all things that your older BW relatives should have told you (and had a duty to tell you) but didn’t.

Monday, February 16, 2015

Health Is Wealth, Part 2: Get Out Of The African-American Echo Chamber

STAY OUT Of The African-American Echo Chamber

In this post, I’m only talking to those African-American women who are serious about surviving and thriving in the future.
NOT those women in the BWE reading audience who are reading these posts as entertainment-only. While they refuse to take action on any of the life-saving and life-enhancing strategies that have been discussed over the years at various BWE and Common Sense blogs.
I’ve been working on my next novel and ramping up the time I spend writing (I hope to one day reach what Dean Wesley Smith has called “pulp speed”), so I’ll be taking a break from reading much of anything online that’s outside my writing-related materials. Before I do that, here are some things I’d like you to consider.
Most of all, stay OUT of the “mainstream” African-American (AA) echo chamber if you’re serious about surviving and thriving in the future. New school AAs have a suicidal habit of coming together in verbal “circle jerks” to cheerlead, support, and affirm each other’s dysfunction.
You hear the mainstream AA echo chamber in effect when morbidly obese AA women come together to call each other “curvy” and cheerlead each other’s obesity. You hear it in the AAs who celebrate and affirm the Bastard Baby Lifestyle. You hear the AA echo chamber in the many self-defeating things* AAs celebrate and affirm.
The first step in achieving any sort of health (physical, financial, emotional, spiritual) is to stay FAR AWAY from the AA echo chamber.
Preparedness Is The Next Step After Mastering The BWE Basics
Sometime back, a commenter named Rhonda Marie gave some excellent commentary on Breukelen Bleu’s Facebook page about this. In part, Rhonda Marie said (emphasis in bold):
"Most of my life centers around self-sufficiency. That's why I homeschool, why I'm working on building a homestead, and why I'm into prepping. If you've read Muslim Bushido or paid attention to the things brought up by Breukelen Bleu and several others, you'll see why this is very necessary.
Few BW will be able to survive in the coming years, simply because they lack basic living skills. They don't know how to cook and bake from scratch, put food by, wouldn't be able to tell you how to get along without a washing machine, can't do basic first aid, sew or mend clothing, don't know how to fish or hunt, or how to live well without electricity, sanitation systems, and running water.
For BW who have already moved past the basics of BWE, self-sufficiency and learning survival skills should be the next step.
As always, the internet is a great resource. Here's some of my favorite homesteaders and preppers on YouTube:
2 Guyz Fishing -

- Good if you need to get used to the idea of hunting and fishing, or want to learn more about gear.

BexarPrepper -

Demcad -

- He keeps on top of events, and actually made the move from Detroit to Kentucky this past year so that he could prepare and be more self-sufficient. He's divested from the BC and is self first. Imagine that...a Black male doing exactly what Black women need to do.
John/jnull0 -

- A really positive guy who is a REAL man. He takes care of his disabled wife, kids, and keeps their homestead going while prepping. He also has some good recipes and food prep advice, and has some videos of how to prepare/eat game.
Growing Your Greens -

- All about the ins and outs of organic gardening.

Noreen's Kitchen -

- A good stop if you need to learn from scratch cooking, baking, and learn about food preps.

Beverly/Our Half Acre Homestead -

- She's a Canadian living with her husband on 1/2 an acre. They raise animals, farm, and she has good from scratch recipes.

Linda's Pantry -

- I've known how to can food for most of my life, but once I started watching Linda's channel, I took it to another level. She has THE best canning videos IMO, and her recipes for canning haven't failed me yet.
After looking through that list, I don't want to hear any of you ask why there's no Black women on it. It's because we're damn near non-existent in this realm, and I shouldn't have to explain why that's the case at this point.
Look through their video archives, start small, work on what you can, and prepare in any way that you can. It's great that we're now aware and have decided to divest from the BC. Preparedness and self-sufficiency are the next steps that I feel are essential for Black women in the coming years."
Rhonda Marie is correct, and I deeply appreciate her taking the time to break it down like that and list all those resources. THANK YOU, Rhonda Marie!
Over the next few days, instead of watching the same gibberish mainstream AAs are watching, I would strongly urge you to sit down with your loved ones and watch THIS docudrama ("After Armageddon") which aired on The History Channel a few years back. The interviews with experts discussing various practical aspects of preparedness and survival are priceless.

Start with learning a new skill that looks like fun! {smile}

[*A Word About Made-Up, Invented, New School AA Names

You also hear the AA echo chamber in the AAs who celebrate and affirm the practice of giving their children names that consist of: (1) random syllables strung together; (2) car, perfume, and liquor brand names; (3) medication names, etc. Such persons have the claim that such naming practices represent AA culture.

NO, they represent Bastard Baby Lifestyle, Welfare Recipient Lifestyle, Mass Oppositional Defiant Disorder practices that began at the point in time 45-50 years ago (mid- to late 1960s) when the AA family structure began falling apart. These literally cursed, made-up, invented names are a toxic side effect of the rise of mass out of wedlock (OOW) childbearing among AAs. These made-up names are rooted in—and intertwined with—the final death of the intact AA family. Which, as far as I'm concerned, is why those names are under a curse.

A name is an important thing. On all sorts of spiritual and material levels. Slapping together random syllables reflects zero understanding of (or respect for) the value of a good name. For nominally Christian AA slaves to pretend like they don’t know this very BASIC point is . . . peculiar: 

 “A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.” Proverbs 22:1 King James Version (KJV)
“A good name is better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one's birth. Ecclesiastes 7:1 King James Version (KJV)

It should be obvious that random syllables slapped together are not good names. Car brand names are not good names. Liquor brands are not good names. At least Muslim AA slaves tend to know better than to give their children “names” consisting of random, made-up syllables. Or auto and liquor brand names. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) would change a new Muslim’s name if their original name had negative connotations to it.
American criminal court dockets, child welfare court dockets and delinquency court dockets are jam-packed with made-up, invented names. What I always found interesting when I did those sorts of cases is that just from the sound you can almost always tell the difference between a made-up, invented ghetto name and a real name that’s foreign and totally unfamiliar (many of the caseworkers involved in child welfare cases are 3rd world immigrants from Latin America, India and Africa). Made-up, invented names have a very different “vibe” emanating from them than real names.
I find the argument offensive that these made-up, random-syllables-strung-together names reflect actual AA culture. I’m tired of AA slaves lifting up artifacts of their slavery (such as slavery-based cuisine such as chitlins, etc.) and pretending that these toxic things--which are rooted in LACK—are treasures. As if our ancestors who were suffering as slaves actually preferred to eat the cast-off portions of meat. If they had a choice, I'm sure they would've chosen to eat "high on the hog" and not pig's intestines and pig's feet.
These made-up names are rooted in LACK:
·         in the cultural self-respect void created by stolen and erased African names +
·         modern AAs’ refusal to pick up authentic African languages, cuisine, and names +
·         the mass OOW childbearing-based disintegration of the AA family unit.
I hate to in any way agree with the notion that AAs lack a cultural base. Nevertheless, these made-up names are a manifestation of not having a strong or intact cultural base of our own. Frankly, as a collective, AAs had more dignity when all of us were wearing the European slave master-derived names.
Which brings me to another reason I call bs on referring to this ghetto mess as “AA names”---Because these same people KEEP their White slave master-derived surnames. Anybody who’s truly dissatisfied with wearing their European former slave masters’ names would drop ALL of those names. You'd drop every single one of those Western names that you didn't get by way of your own personal marriage to a White man.

Slapping a made-up, invented name or a legitimate African or Muslim name in front of your former White slave master’s European surname is a bad joke. Nobody else respects that.
At the end of the day, only those folks who have the (current buzz word) “infrastructure” of their own can afford to do their own thing. Those who are dependent on others—oh, like 99.99% of AAs—will continue to pay a price for having these wacky, made-up names.
I give Asian immigrants credit for being smart. Much smarter than Latino immigrants who have Mass Oppositional Defiant Disorder about refusing to learn English after choosing to move to an English-speaking country. Much smarter than the Latino immigrant behavior pattern of stirring up a lot of unnecessary enmity by trying to force Americans to pronounce Spanish names the way Spanish speakers pronounce these names. Which is part of why there’s a lot of backlash against Latinos. Too many of them are bad guests in this country and bad news.
By contrast, what many Asians tend to do is use what I’ve heard them refer to as an “American” first name around non-Asians, and use their actual first names among themselves. Go Along & Get Along To Rise Until You’re In A Position of Dominance is why Asians will rule the planet by the end of this century.]

Note: I often refer to mainstream AAs as “slaves” because far too many of them are still operating from a place of slave emotional dynamics. They're angry and engage in Oppositional Defiant Disorder behaviors about what their White modern-day masters will or won't do for (or to) them, yet they're also unwilling to seek any kind of freedom from living under White domination in any area of their lives.

Modern day AA slaves angrily whine about the things that Whites provide for them, and the conditions under which Whites allow them to have access to White-created goodies such as White-created jobs, White-manufactured houses, etc. Meanwhile, mainstream AA slaves refuse to learn how to create their own income streams, grow a portion of their own food, or create anything else for themselves.

It's ridiculous. And the slaves will sorely miss White American domination after the Latinos and Asians take over political power in the U.S. later in this century. At least White Americans will entertain the sound of AA slaves' whining. These other people are NOT going to listen to any of that noise.

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Please Read And Forward This Facebook Post By For Black Women Only

The dynamics discussed in THIS recent Facebook post over at For Black Women Only have previously been discussed in BWE circles over the years. This particular news story is simply a more extreme version of the dynamics discussed in the post Does Being A “Day 1 Chick” Come With Any Benefits? Both posts discuss an important lesson that more African-American (AA) women need to learn.
While I’m talking about this, let me mention some of the subtext underlying the conversation over at For Black Women Only. What a lot of y’all African-American women don’t notice or understand is that more than a few of these BW-centric sites that spend their time “chewing the fat” about AA women’s issues and problems* are written by African (from what I can tell, mostly Nigerian-heritage) women.
I’m sure many of the AA mammy mules caping for BM over at various BW-centric sites assume that they’re only debating with other AA women (AA women who don’t approve of caping for BM). The AA mammy mules who flock to these pages to cape for BM don’t seem to realize that they’re often arguing and debating with African women—African women who are generally NOT raised to cape for men. Period.
I give African women credit that in general they are NOT willing to be used as mammy mules. The vast majority of the African women immigrants I’ve known over the years know how to “get theirs;” they’re very similar to Asian women in that regard. I admire that about them.

I'm mentioning this because more AA women need to learn to pay attention to subtext and nuances. When interacting with everybody. Across the board.
[*Yep, these Foreign BW Publicly Talking & Preaching About AA Issues While Mostly Keeping Quiet About Their Own Ethnic Group's Issues When In Earshot of AAs websites are publicly chewing the fat about African-American issues and problems. And generally not engaging AA women readers in conversations about other types of news stories, such as:
Mother left her two children aged 10 and 13 home alone for THREE WEEKS while she went on a holiday abroad - A mother had abandoned her children to go to a family wedding in Nigeria

'It scares the Jesus outta me': Outrage as Nigerian 'Nollywood' star posts image of himself wearing Ebola mask in first class airport lounge as he flees Liberia]