This is a follow-up to the post, For All Practical Purposes, Most Self-Proclaimed Good Black Men™ = Pookie And Ray-Ray. Consider it a 201-level course in BWE.
One of the introductory, basic concepts of BWE is for African-American (AA) women to clearly identify the primary categories of people who are doing great harm to AA women and girls. And to do so without mincing words. Let’s review the 101-level basics:
Damaged Beyond Repair Black Males (DBRBM) do great harm to AA women and girls. They’re the ones who beat, rape, molest, and/or kill BW and girls. They’re the ones who create and support the “Radio Rwanda”hip-hop/(c)rap that celebrates violence against BW and girls. They’re the ones who support calling BW b*tches and h*es. Even though the common image of DBRBM is Black underclass “Pookie” and “Ray-Ray,” there are plenty of DBRBM doctors, lawyers, judges and so on. DBRBM create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
Active DBRBM kill BW and Black girls. Passive DBRBM get BW and Black girls killed.
The vast majority of self-proclaimed Good Black Men™do great harm to AA women and girls. Because Good Black Men™ consistently refuse to accept any responsibility whatsoever for protecting and providing for AA women’s and children’s physical safety. This is why many AA neighborhoods are totally lawless, free-fire zones. Good Black Men™ also refuse to protect Black women and girls from being publicly denigrated by DBRBM (c)rappers or nonblack racists (see Don Imus incident). Good Black Men™ are accomplices who aid and abet DBRBM. Good Black Men™ create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
Good Black Men™ get BW and Black girls killed.
BW who are Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules get other BW and Black girls killed. Because they aid and abet DBRBM. Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules act as guard dogs who protect and enable DBRBM. Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules will gladly sacrifice any and every BW or Black girl if doing so serves to protect a single DBRBM. These were the BW who are busy making excuses for R. Kelly the serial pedophile and Chris Brown the violent, woman-beating brute. BF Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
BF Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules get BW and Black girls killed.
Well, there’s another category of BW who engage in behavior that creates an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible: the BF “Marie Antoinettes” and “Special Snowflakes.”
BF Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes get BW and Black girls killed.
Much like the historical Marie Antoinette, modern-day BF Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes don’t pay any attention to the prevailing conditions that surround them. They don’t pay attention because Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes are too invested in believing that anything that affects other BW can’t possibly affect them. Because these women think they’re above it all. Even while the number of physical fatalities and spirit-murders suffered by other AA women and girls keeps increasing.
BF Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes get BW and Black girls killed.
MA/SS go so far as to pretend that matters which clearly impact BW don’t exist. The same way the Sista Soldiers and the Mammy Mules are never able to see or perceive any DBRBM-committed violence against BW is the way the Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes never see or perceive anti-BW racism. Whether that anti-BW racism is coming from BM or from nonblacks.
BF Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes get BW and Black girls killed.
Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes take great pleasure in announcing that had no idea that BW are under physical, verbal, emotional, spiritual attack from DBRBM. They had no idea that many other BW have been brainwashed into being BW-sacrificing guard dogs for DBRBM.
The Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes make the point that they had no idea that any of this was going on until they read about these matters on various pioneering BWE blogs. You know, because they’re so above ever having those sorts of concerns. Which is why these women are often annoyed when other BW mention or do any consciousness-raising about these matters. Because, you know, hearing about such things puts a crimp in the Marie Antoinettes’/Special Snowflakes’ day. By trying to shut down any mention of these matters, these women help create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
BF Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes get BW and Black girls killed.
Many Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes think that as long as they have a nonblack boyfriend, then that one fact—by itself—means that they’re empowered. Meanwhile, just like the Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules, these women are spending their money to support BM (and others) who HATE them. day. By doing so, these women help create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
These Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes are also spending their money to support people who NEVER give them reciprocal support. Just like the Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules, these Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes financially support anti-BW movie mess from anybody who either p*sses on BW (Tyler Perry, Steve Harvey) or erases BW from their own history (Red Tails) or pimps BW consumers for their money while lifting up nonblack women (Michael Ealy, Jamie Foxx—who has been in the closet about his non-BW-only dating policy, etc., etc.). By doing so, these women help create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes have no idea that anti-BW racism exists among certain segments of the nonblack population. Even when racist insults are overt and “in their faces.” Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes have no idea that paying a WM movie director to be verbally assaulted almost non-stop with the n-word is a problem. By taking this position, these women help create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible .
They take this position because apparently, many of the Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes have become so-called desensitized to the n-word.* The same way the Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules became “desensitized” to being referred to as b*tches and h*es. By doing so, over time the Sista Soldiers and Mammy Mules helped create an atmosphere that gets BW and Black girls killed.
Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes have no idea that a WW tennis player making Venus Hottentot-style public mockery of Serena Williams’ body is a problem.** By taking this position, these women help create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes have no idea that somebody crafting a Hoodrat Barbie-type doll is a problem. By taking this position, these women help create an “anything goes” atmosphere in which any and all attacks on BW are permissible.
BF Marie Antoinettes and Special Snowflakes get BW and Black girls killed.
Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes don’t notice the “small” acts of anti-BW aggression as they accumulate. The historical Marie Antoinette didn’t take heed of the public hatred being whipped up against her and her family until it was too late for her to escape a violent death. Similarly, the modern BF Marie Antoinettes don’t notice any anti-BW aggression or problems until they’re at the point of (figuratively) having their heads chopped off.
Comedian Sunda Croonquist apparently didn’t recognize there was a problem with her racist in-laws. She didn’t understand that her White husband’s failure—for years—to police his racist relatives, and protect her from their racist behavior was a problem. Her husband basically did what most Good Black Men™ do when BW are under attack: nothing. She seemingly didn’t recognize this as a problem until after these racist in-laws sued her.
Glenda Moore (and her White husband) apparently didn’t recognize there was a problem with moving into a neighborhood filled with a high percentage of racists. She didn’t recognize this as a problem that could affect her—and her small, half-Black sons—until after these same racist neighborsignored her cries for help during Hurricane Sandy. Her sons drowned.
Many of the Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes have often learned how to parrot the terminology of BWE (“vetting” and “reciprocity”).But they have no clue as to what these concepts look like in practice. They don’t understand that the point is for more AA women to cultivate a mutually supportive network of people who actually give reciprocity. The Marie Antoinettes/Special Snowflakes think that having an nonblack boyfriend or husband automatically means that they’re empowered. They don’t understand that being closely affiliated with nonblacks who do nothing when these BW come under attack is the same as having an equally useless Good Black Man™ around. Either way, that unsupported and unprotected BW is in a lot of danger.
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*What’s fascinating (in a car-wreck sort of way) is how the Marie Antoinettes’ kneejerk reflex of responding to anti-BW aggression by saying “What’s the big deal? It’s only a song/movie/fill-in-the-blank.”is an EXACT replay of what most AAs did when that self-denigrating hip-hop/(c)rap garbage started up decades ago. Slaves used those same specious arguments to “justify” why they spent their money to subsidize being dehumanized in public:
“What’s the big deal? It’s only a _________.”
“It’s not what you call me, it’s what I answer to.” [In response to those who objected to BW being called b*tches and h*es.]
And so on. Well, AAs have been collectively reaping the rotten fruit of making/accepting these “What’s the big deal?” responses. Unopposed aggression ALWAYS escalates. Just look at the rotten fruit that AA women have been reaping after becoming “desensitized” the the use of b*tch and h*e in reference to BW. Those of us with common sense can see the rotten fruit that’s coming every Black person’s way due to so many slaves choosing to become so-called “desensitized” to the public use of the n-word. And now the slaves have essentially given nonblack outsiders permission to publicly denigrate Black people with the public use of the n-word???!!!
[I call them slaves because such persons are slaves. A slave has no dignity---therefore, a slave can't be insulted or take offense at anything. Anything and everything is permissible when it pertains to slaves. Because—to paraphrase the ruling in the Dred Scott case—AA slaves have NO boundaries that anybody is required to respect. And the modern-day slaves are okay with that state of affairs. Except when they're busy being "perpetually surprised" (as Evia calls it) by the utterly predictable consequences of their choice to support their own dehumanization.]
**Bonus BWE Level 301 Discussion: A friend and I had a long conversation about that incident with Serena Williams. We both agreed that it wouldn't have served Serena's interests to get off into some open conflict with that White heifer. As was discussed during this post, when a woman has to fight her own battles, she’s usually already lost. For women, it’s much more effective to have men fight for them. A lot of WW know these dynamics. Because of the protection they receive from WM, WW generally have a free hand to engage in overt racist aggression against BW. Meanwhile, BW's responses to racist aggression from WW usually have to be muted. That is, until more BW have Wendy Deng-level marriages and alliances with influential WM who will put a stop to that mess (as pertains to their wives and daughters).
Asian women don’t have to face these sorts of problems. Not with the frequency that BW are confronted with. Because there are enough Asian women married and otherwise connected to WM who will police other (White) folks’ behavior regarding publicly denigrating Asian women.
All of which makes one wonder about the sort of support network (or lack of such) that Serena Williams has been building. At this point in her career, why hasn’t she developed sufficient contacts and affiliations with some of the influential WM in her profession that at least one of them was close enough to her to speak out on her behalf? Apparently, she’s as unprotected and as Sunda Croonquist. Which is unfortunate. And dangerousfor the BW involved.
It’s not enough to get out around nonblacks. You have to cultivate reciprocal, mutually supportive relationships with some of the nonblacks around you. So that when something like the Serena Williams incident goes down, at least one nonblack ally is speaking out on your behalf. Best of all is to have the type of connections with influential nonblacks to ensure that nobody even feels safe “going there” with you in the first place. Because they know your nonblack allies will retaliate.
