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If Angela Bassett, Diahann Carroll & Vanessa Bell Calloway Were Starting Their Acting Careers Now, They’d Never Get Hired—And Many Of You Are Okay With That Result
I intend for this to be the last post in this particular series. Because I see that a critical mass of readers have (finally) woken up enough to understand what I tried to tell some of y’all a little over a year ago. When I first raised questions about your rabid, knee-jerk, unsolicited and unreciprocated support of Lupita Nyong’o and 12 Years A Slave. It’s taken about a year for many of the negative consequences I could see coming as a result of your caping for Lupita and 12 Years A Slave to become manifest and slap some of y’all in the face. So now you get it. Thank God.
The Minimal Bottom Line Of What You Must Do If You Don’t Want To Be Totally Erased As An African-American Black Woman
Most African-American Black women (AABW) can’t understand nuance.
Let me emphasize: Everybody’s perfectly free and welcome to set their own priorities however they wish. Any AA Black woman who wants to prioritize the interests of folks who are something other than AA Black women (over their own interests as an AABW) is perfectly free and welcome to do so.
I’m only talking about why I do what I do, and why I advocate what I advocate. God respects free will, and so do I."
If You’re Going To Socialize With Non-AAs, You Need To Understand They DON’T View The World The Way Most AAs Do
I talked about this specifically in terms of foreign-origin Blacks in the post Pay Attention to Nuances When Black PeopleSay They “Don’t Understand What Black Means.” But it really applies to all types of non-AAs, not just foreign Blacks.
It’s funny. Over the years when I’ve brought up these issues, many gullible AABW have assumed that I’m angry with or dislike foreign Black folks. I don’t dislike them as a blanket category; and I'm not angry with them. Actually, I’ve interacted with them (and with other folks with 3rd world heritage) more than most “typical” AAs. Having been around 3rd world immigrants, I see them more clearly than most AAs do (in particular new school AAs). Because I’ve never looked at foreign Blacks or Latinos or Asians or immigrant Muslims through rose-petal filters. I never assumed that they viewed the world the way “mainstream” AAs do. Especially not the way most new school AAs view the world. They DON’T.
Here’s the primary difference that mainstream AAs (and in particular new school AAs) need to understand:
Mainstream AAs—especially new school AAs—go through life assuming that there are (and will always be) various outsider-created, stranger-created (typically government-created) safety nets in existence. That underlying belief has LOTS of implications and it impacts how people navigate social interactions in all sorts of ways. Big and small.
By contrast, 3rd-world heritage immigrants come from cultures and countries that typically don’t have stranger-created, government-created safety nets! Those cultures that do have functioning government-created safety nets like in South Korea or Japan, don’t expect those government-created services to pick up all the responsibilities of family. It typically doesn’t even occur to these people to expect strangers or the government to duplicate what they perceive as the traditional duties of family.
You need to understand these dynamics if you plan on having productive interactions with foreign Blacks and other 3rd world folks.
As surprising as it may be to some of you, I'm not angry with these people. Because through friendships with various of them over the years, I've learned about the sort of cultural programming they've been raised within. In general, these people are raised to only act right with winners. I treasure some of the things I’ve learned from foreign friends over the years. I simply have firm boundaries in place to ensure that 3rd world foreigners never get the signal that it's a good idea or advisable to try to piss on me or anybody I care about. I would suggest you do the same.